- Joined
- Nov 17, 2015
- Messages
- 13,979
In my world of close friends we are aware of boundaries, but almost always try to help - this violates MYOB, but is usually appreciated and understood well-intentioned.
I think perhaps start (for a day or three) with the help they say they want, vs. the help you think/know they need.
After a major health scare, if my best friend swooped in to talk about trust and lawyers I'd be overwhelmed and scared and might push them away, possibly angrily. Maybe that's the 2nd or 3rd follow up. And start now with what they say they need/want to get through the day. A friend, a shoulder, a casserole.
I also would try to take most of this to your friend directly, as he seems to be self-destructive.
Best of luck to you all.