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So true Don...(snip)You get caught up in a lot of doubt, uncertainty and guilt over this. You never know whether you are doing the right thing or the wrong thing.
In the latter stages of Alz regarding my FIL, my MIL was unable to decide whether or not to put him in a nursing home. Her daughter, (my SIL) could not bear to think of him being sent to a nursing home. Even though I felt it was time, I would not voice my opinion as he was not my father.
He fell several times and had to be taken to the hospital. He was becoming aggressive and almost impossible to handle. Several meds were tried, but it seemed as if nothing worked. It finally got to the point where they placed him in the hospital to try another med (don't remember the name). After three days, he had a heart attack and passed away.
My daddy could no longer take care of my momma, so he had to put her in the nursing home. I agreed with him as I had seen just how bad the progression can get. She fell several times as well. They could not tether her to her wheelchair, so falling for her was a problem. She was in the 'wandering' mode...this meant they had to give her drugs to slow/calm her down. Well, they did slow her down, and before we knew it, she was bedridden and could no longer walk. Even though we didn't have to worry about her falling again, she developed other problems. One of which was pneumonia...which took her life.
My MIL had so many different things wrong with her, the family decided to stop the meds and just try to keep her comfortable. We were so concerned about her being in pain, but the pain specialists did their job well.
We did the best we could with our parents, but yes...there will always be 'what ifs'.
My FIL was diagnosed with Alz in November of 2002...he passed away in September of 2008. My momma was diagnosed in May of 2005 and passed away a month ago.The progression. They evaluated him for hospice a few months ago and decided to wait. This time they think he is ready. As you know from your research, this could be a long process and he could improve and come back out of hospice. Alzheimers isn't a fast disease.
Thank you...my condolences to you NW...(snip)My belated condolences...
Watching my father's last years made me decide to stay free of megacorps. Life is just too short, particularly for a guy approaching middle age. I do not subscribe to the current notion that 70 is the new 50, the new middle age. Hell, who's to say I will live into my 70s?
Yes, losing my momma was a wake up call for me as well. I don't fret quite as much over the budget. Losing her has changed my life in many ways.
I like your style.And more than that, I started to spend more money, compared to previous years when I worked hard while telling myself that I would enjoy the fruit of my labor later in my golden years. No, no, baby... If not now, then when?
To borrow the lyrics from Santana,
"You've got to change your frugal way, baby...
Before your life is over, baby..."
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