Calico
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Friend of my moms had an awful scraggly combover. I was told to never mention. He had been hit by a car as a child and couldn't handle showing the scars on top of his head. I think there's a lesson here. Hairstyles, beards, odd clothing sometimes are armor. We never know what people have going on, what challenges they face.
Indeed.
I am female.
When I had chemo four years ago I shaved my head, because the oncologist said the chemo would cause all my hair to fall out anyway. Given that I was focused on surviving, the loss of my hair was a minor bump in the road.
I never wore a wig, but I did wear beanies to protect my head from the sun. I know for a fact that some people I worked with were uncomfortable with my "new look" until my hair grew back, and they would have much preferred that I wear a wig in order to make them feel more comfortable. They said as much behind my back, and it got back to me. Sort of like the OP and his friends talking behind the gentleman's back about his combover.
No one ever said anything to my face, and I pity anyone who would have tried to do so.
Once I completed my treatment, my hair grew back, but nothing like the way it used to look. The color changed (it was two different colors); the texture changed; it was curly instead of straight, and it has been thinning on top for the past four years, due to the medication I have been on for four years (and will be on for the next six years).
I'll admit the thinning on the top of my head distresses me a bit, especially as it seems to be getting much more noticeable - but not as much as, you know, being dead would distress me if I stopped the meds.
If I'm lucky, once the meds stop in six years my hair will thicken up. If not, so be it. I'd rather be above ground with thin hair than six feet under with the perfect head of thick hair I used to have.
And I pity anyone who tries to give me "well intentioned" or "friendly" advice about how to handle my thinning hair over the next few years.