This is probably common around here so I am asking for advice. I have been frugal for my entire life. My DW and I beat the game, FIRE'd and are sitting in the cat bird seat. We haven't bought each other Christmas presents for the last 30 years but this year I said we needed to BTD and each choose five expensive presents. We probably spent around $8K total on those. We have been saying we needed to up our spending to $120K per year (it was usually around $40K) and we are finding ourselves at maybe $90K total YTD.
Last week we donated our time to a friend's church (we are atheists) to help build beds for kids who have none. My wife and I were really touched when a pair of 5-7 year old sisters told us that they have been sharing a crib sized mattress. We built a bed for a mentally challenged kid who said his neck and back hurt every day from sleeping on the floor. Last night my wife told me she wanted to spend $200 per month for bedding for six of these little beds. That is ~$2500 per year (72 beds). I could feel my blood pressure go up, not sure why, when she told me that and I felt nervous. We've also always wanted to go to Waffle House (or similar) a couple of times per month and leave a $100 tip (another $2500 per year). The $5K per year would not affect our networth at all so I don't know why I have been so "stingy".
I watched the market go up today and looked at my "earnings" - $65,000. Why am I having such a hard time giving? How can I change? I'm finally learning to spend money on myself (i.e. clicking on "Buy It Now" on Amazon instead of looking for an hour trying to save $0.37 on a better deal) so maybe I can actually make the transition.
FWIW, you can learn about "SHP - Sleep in Heavenly Peace" here:
https://youtu.be/KcbLNOQEnUQ?si=QZ93obTSXIys_X0h
Last week we donated our time to a friend's church (we are atheists) to help build beds for kids who have none. My wife and I were really touched when a pair of 5-7 year old sisters told us that they have been sharing a crib sized mattress. We built a bed for a mentally challenged kid who said his neck and back hurt every day from sleeping on the floor. Last night my wife told me she wanted to spend $200 per month for bedding for six of these little beds. That is ~$2500 per year (72 beds). I could feel my blood pressure go up, not sure why, when she told me that and I felt nervous. We've also always wanted to go to Waffle House (or similar) a couple of times per month and leave a $100 tip (another $2500 per year). The $5K per year would not affect our networth at all so I don't know why I have been so "stingy".
I watched the market go up today and looked at my "earnings" - $65,000. Why am I having such a hard time giving? How can I change? I'm finally learning to spend money on myself (i.e. clicking on "Buy It Now" on Amazon instead of looking for an hour trying to save $0.37 on a better deal) so maybe I can actually make the transition.
FWIW, you can learn about "SHP - Sleep in Heavenly Peace" here:
https://youtu.be/KcbLNOQEnUQ?si=QZ93obTSXIys_X0h
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