I should mention that I'm a CFP, and well aware of the importance of separating emotions from investing. But I also deal with the reality that most people aren't exactly homo economicus in practice.
What I do know, and have been well-schooled on, is the simple reminder that all financial advisors should know: IT ISN'T MY MONEY. ...
Absolutely.
I crossed this path in helping to settle FIL's estate. FIL & MIL inherited some stocks from FIL's parents in the 60's. They held them, collected the divs, and that was that.
As we were consolidating all their various accounts, I mentioned selling these stocks and putting them in an S&P fund to keep it simple and get some added diversification. Or we could sell and harvest the loss from the ones that took a loss since FIL's DOD, and lower her taxes that year. These stocks are ~ 30% of her NW, and almost all of that is in 2 (blue chip) stocks. I think better diversification is prudent, but it also isn't a critical thing.
Well, when I mentioned this to MIL, she just calmly said "I don't want to sell any of those stocks". I just said, "Well, OK, we won't do that then" and I never mentioned it again. Yes, it's her money, her choice. If I thought this put her at significant risk, I might have gone further in explaining that risk, but she's OK.
Not my choice, but it's not my money.
Memories of physical items like houses, furnishing, land, etc. can be preserved via photos and videos. Snap lots of them, then part with the actual item. It's much easier and less costly to maintain the virtual item, and in many cases it can evoke the same memories.
Agreed. And no frozen pipes to deal with!
My childhood home was replaced by a McMansion. Can't say I feel anything about it (other than I can't point it out to my kids and explain that the 3 kids shared a bedroom smaller than any of their single bedrooms - cue the Four Yorkshiremen!). I've got memories and pictures. I don't think I'll be concerned about what happens to the second home I lived in either (DM's current home). Time marches on.
But everyone's different. I also very, very rarely visit any of my relative's graves. I think about them often, we have pictures and videos and mementos. For me, standing next to the grave adds nothing. But I guess it is important to some people.
-ERD50