PsyopRanger
Recycles dryer sheets
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FlowGirl said:We haven't had to consiously work at it either - coming up on 10 years and lived together 2 years before that. Sounds cheesy, but our marriage started out great and has gotten better every year. Sometimes we even astound ourselves at how well we get along - we prefer to hang out with each more than anyone else we know. I don't know what the key to sucess is (and still have a long way to go before ours is proven truly successful) but we worked out the big issues before tying the knot, and the little ones, well... just aren't worth turning into big ones.
People keep telling me marriage is a lot of work, but honestly if my marriage felt like a job, I don't think I'd still be here. A syllabus of scheduled readings as laid out by Psy-Ops sounds like my worst nightmare. We're both heathen athiests (as raised by our parents) and seem to be doing ok without help from Dobson. But, whatever works... attending a seminar once in a while is certainly better than divorce.
Do you have kids?
My marriage was smooth sailing and spending time doing whatever "we" felt like.
After children, it is doing what the "family" feels like.
Before kids....endless hours alone together.
After Kids....Maybe 30 minutes per day when the kids are asleep.
I also ask those that have a blissful marriage, how do you know if your marriage is solid if it has never been tested with problems?
As someone else posted, a successful marriage is one that goes through good times and bad times together.
I would be interested in your comments here:
http://early-retirement.org/forums/index.php?topic=8695.0