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Gone but not forgotten
My Mom who is 93 was living alone in an apartment next door to her sister who is 73 . She had a cleaning lady and I paid for a home health aide to take her to the doctor's and food shopping . She had lots of friends and a support system in place . My younger sister was able to visit often . My older sister also visited and I would come for long periods at a time especially if she was having medical problems . She is mentally sharp and physically except for arthritis and being 93 she is okay . My older sister decided to move to Florida and she and her husband insisited my Mother move To Florida with them . Well it has been ten months and it is not working out . I have had my Mother several times for a week to ten days since she moved here and I am willing to have her visit once a month or once every other month . My sister has been hinting heavily that I should take Mom for much longer periods of time . I really do not want to for three reasons . 1 - this was not my idea and I spoke up that I thought it was a bad idea 2- I have steps in my house to the bedroom and My Mother has difficulty with the steps . It is okay for a week but after that she really struggles . 3- My Sister and my Mother have a financial agreement . My Mom pays rent and contributes money for food . So I told my sister what I was willing to do ( Have Mom for a week at a time monthly ) and I also told my Sister she needs to discuss this with my Mother .So am I a bad daughter and what would you do in this situation ?