I want a gold star. I answered the question.
So, you think just answering the question deserves special recognition? Isn't that another sign of declining culture?
I want a gold star. I answered the question.
So, you think just answering the question deserves special recognition? Isn't that another sign of declining culture?
Some interesting responses. The thread wasn't about pet peeves, it was more have we all helped enable these acts by fellow citizens in part because so few people speak up anymore. The expressholes have learned that consequences are highly unlikely, so why not! Imagine if it was more typical for people to speak up, and if the expresshole was hostile/unapologetic, everyone on line would make a statement? Not expecting anyone to go after a line cutting kickboxer, but that's not always the case. I'm pretty sure doing nothing or waiting for someone else won't change anything, probably make bad behavior even more common.
Again the bad kid at school. When I was a kid if my teacher told my parents (or any kid-parent) I was misbehaving at school, they would apologize to the teacher and let me have it that night. Now you hear about parents who immediately say 'my little angel wouldn't do that, you leave him/her alone or I'll sue you.' Did the teachers change, or the parents? Is it any wonder teachers are reluctant to deal with parents? Any wonder that kids push the behavior envelope more than ever? Is all this conducive to educating kids?
You can walk through example after example. No amount of "rules" will matter if there's no peer pressure to reinforce better behavior. Will they?
Again, I've just been doing some thought provoking reading along these lines, I'm still grappling with the ideas. And again, this applies to many acts, many larger than expressholes.
I think the problem is people are always generalizing everything. And lately, it seems everyone is doing it all the time.
Good one, JP! Pass it on. I usually go out of my way to be helpful when driving, letting people in, etc.Marko,
On a positive note, it is fun to go against this societal trend of rude behavior. I make it a point to hold the door open for people, young or old, out in public. I suspect this isn't common behavior, because of the reactions. Most people seem almost shocked, and are typically very thankful.
JP
Frankly? I think you should consider changing your reading material. Life is too short, IMO, especially when one is already retired.I've been reading a lot about how our culture in the US is evolving, for the worse IMO. But a real world example, to see how others view it?
No, LOL! We're retired!Don't you people have anything better to do?
WanderALot said:Ok, since we're venting. I've been doing this for a while now and it just makes me feel good. Picture a two-lane road that is being merged into a single lane after a traffic light. There are those little merge arrows painted on the road before and after the traffic light. While stopped at the light, some douche will invariably drive on the soon-disappear lane and cut in front of everyone else when the light turns green. So what do I do? I block the lane so no one can pass. On more than one occasion I have gotten dirty looks from other "law-abiders" when they thought that I was going to cut in front of everyone before they realized that I was trying to prevent someone else from doing it.
DW hates it when I do this!
Better - yes. More enjoyable? No.Don't you people have anything better to do?
Damn straight!
You can walk through example after example. No amount of "rules" will matter if there's no peer pressure to reinforce better behavior. Will they?
Previously my pet peeve was threads complaining about pet peeves, but it has now been superseded by complaints about threads not about pet peeves!
I think they maybe just do not process social information so well anymore. Is this a possible explanation?I live in Florida where a good deal of the population is older than dirt .The thing I have found is after a certain age they give up any pretense of manners and just let it all hang out . They walk in front of cars daring them to hit them . They jam the grocery aisles by having their cart in the middle and their husband who looks like he doesn't want to be there standing by the side so the whole aisle is blocked . They have long conversations with the speedy check out girl about the weather in Indiana . They wait until all their groceries have been bagged before they locate their check book and proceed to write a check . Then they have to re zip their pocketbook and rearrange everything before they start to leave . The only thing that keeps me from screaming is that in a few years I will be one of them and game on !
I live in Florida where a good deal of the population is older than dirt .The thing I have found is after a certain age they give up any pretense of manners and just let it all hang out . They walk in front of cars daring them to hit them . They jam the grocery aisles by having their cart in the middle and their husband who looks like he doesn't want to be there standing by the side so the whole aisle is blocked . They have long conversations with the speedy check out girl about the weather in Indiana . They wait until all their groceries have been bagged before they locate their check book and proceed to write a check . Then they have to re zip their pocketbook and rearrange everything before they start to leave . The only thing that keeps me from screaming is that in a few years I will be one of them and game on !
It's written by a former judge.
My point is, we all do things we know aren’t great but we tell ourselves they’re no big deal. Sociologists call this phenomenon “defining deviancy down”
eridanus said:And a current curmudgeon.
She's complaining about naughty words? Seriously? Shiiiiit.