Seclusion in FIRE?

[marko]

So, anyway, you may be right with your concern that you have expressed, but it's possible you will be pleasantly surprised.

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I know that as I (involuntarily) entered RE I was looking for some amount of certainty.

In the safety of hindsight I think I would envy someone who'd just look at it as a new life adventure and just jump. Just go for it! Learn new stuff, meet new people.

Be "Pleasantly Surprised" as you open yourself to new things.

Again, easy to say but I'd sure be impressed by someone doing that.

 

[Mulligan]

Here is also what can happen as an ER.... My very elderly neighbor who still is a pretty good golfer has been inviting me for 6 years to play in this monday senior golf outing where over a 100 will show up to play. First time I go I am teamed up with a 72, 79, and 84 year old and we won(Im 51). Im afraid I wont be allowed to come back. I bet there weren't 2 other people there that were in their 50s. I had a great time and my partners were very nice, but it was a very odd feeling as I felt out of place. Outside of my neighbor I have only played with people my age. As my neighbor said to me on the way home...."Nobody can retire in their 50s anymore like we did".


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[scrabbler1]

As an introvert, I welcomed the chance to eliminate the personal contact from working (part-time). I still have my small circle of friends (mainly my ladyfriend and my best male friend) and my volunteer work and hobbies which is fine. Otherwise, I welcome the added seclusion.

 

[Kabekew]

Now that I am doing the law school thing (not to be a lawyer, just one of those things I thought I'd 'give it a try') I am very annoyed at all the "networking" that goes on. Not the networking per se, but people trying to DRAG me down that road. Some classmates have threatened to nominate me for the student bar association "class leader" position...they don't seem to understand that I am ONLY there for the education and I'm there FOR ME, and no one else. We will see if I make it past the first semester!

Interesting, I've thought about law school too, but to actually become a lawyer and volunteer somewhere. It's expensive though. How do you justify spending $100K-$150K for your J.D. if you don't plan to do anything with it?

 

[davemartin88]

We moved to a rural area where we didn't know anyone, built a house in the middle of 60 acres, and enjoyed the solitude. After about 5 years, we've worked ourselves in to the small community a bit through some volunteer work and seem to have the right bit of social contact- I'm one of those people that can strike up a conversation in a parking lot and talk for an hour with someone I've never met- just yesterday met a guy who was still running a local apple orchard 60 years after buying property to get started. He's been through a number of rounds of trees and finally getting ready to hand off the business to his adult sons- he is about 85 years old.

I think the key is to set your own pace on interaction- moving helps a lot! We have some family that moved here recently and still getting used to having them around so close by. I'm not big on people dropping by without calling at least so having to work things out- I also don't like to have a lot of company or phone calls in the evening and not answering the phone seems to be an issue for some others when they know you are at home, lol. Hmm, maybe I'm more of a curmudgeon than I thought?

 

[ExFlyBoy5]

Interesting, I've thought about law school too, but to actually become a lawyer and volunteer somewhere. It's expensive though. How do you justify spending $100K-$150K for your J.D. if you don't plan to do anything with it?

Well, between a pretty good merit scholarship (it's not a great LS, so they offered LOTS of $$$ to bump up their LSAT/GPA #'s) and the GI Bill...I am getting paid about 12K a year to go to school.

If I had to pay A DIME, then no, I wouldn't do it. No way. No how. The market for lawyers is atrocious.

The toughest part for me is trying to get folks to understand that I am NOT trying to be a lawyer. There constant barrage of extracurricular activities is just annoying. Also, the ABA has pretty strict rules on attendance and the school I am in does enforce this, so it's difficult to skip if I am not just "feeling it" when the weather is beautiful is out!