fisherman
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The disconnecting with a dysfunctional family thread gave me the idea to pose this questions as I suspect many other are or have dealt with this reoccurring torture.
Thanksgiving is about two months away but I am already dreading it. We live in the same town as my in laws and my Mom. My Dad died 17 years ago.
My sister has done me a great favor in that she and her family no longer come to my Moms for Thanksgiving dinner. This keeps one problem BIl out of the picture along with one overly emotional sister.
The above lead my MIL to decided to invite my Mom to their Thanksgiving dinner a couple of years ago. The first year it really help improve the situation as everyone tried to behave better with a stranger there. Last year that did not last and FIL, BIL, etc would not get off of politics no matter what. They are of the type that when GOD said let their be light they flipped the switch! Needless to say we do not share all the same opinions although the differences are more in approach and compassion than political parties.
I do not want to hurt DW and she was miserable last year also. The kids of course were oblivious. I have been trying to think of a way to avoid and not deal with it. IE Plan a trip get sick, etc.
I could use some sage advise!
Thanksgiving is about two months away but I am already dreading it. We live in the same town as my in laws and my Mom. My Dad died 17 years ago.
My sister has done me a great favor in that she and her family no longer come to my Moms for Thanksgiving dinner. This keeps one problem BIl out of the picture along with one overly emotional sister.
The above lead my MIL to decided to invite my Mom to their Thanksgiving dinner a couple of years ago. The first year it really help improve the situation as everyone tried to behave better with a stranger there. Last year that did not last and FIL, BIL, etc would not get off of politics no matter what. They are of the type that when GOD said let their be light they flipped the switch! Needless to say we do not share all the same opinions although the differences are more in approach and compassion than political parties.
I do not want to hurt DW and she was miserable last year also. The kids of course were oblivious. I have been trying to think of a way to avoid and not deal with it. IE Plan a trip get sick, etc.
I could use some sage advise!