Audrey, what your wote here reminds me of the book, "The Feminine Mistake," by Leslie Bennetts. In it, she tells stories about women whose lives took a big tumble when they became economically dependent on their husbands only to see them become disabled, die, or become divorced. She wondered why these women would go to the trouble of getting a college degree (other than a M-R-S degree) and begin a good career towards being self-supporting only to abandon that and make themselves vulnerable by becoming dependent on something which might not turn out the way they had hoped.