kannon
Recycles dryer sheets
Read with lot of attention recent thread called "Youngest Has a Job". Well this is "Youngest Had A Job"
After six long years our youngest finally graduated college with MIS undergrad degree. In the two years since he has gone thru three jobs, terminated at each for reason. The reasons he sees as not related to his performance. I worry he is not seeing the truth and he needs to work harder/perform better. Right now he is enjoying unemployment while continuing his sports and hobbies, living with his friends in a house, slowly searching for a new job.
We insisted he look for a part time non-career job (like UPS, Denny's,...) to collect as much money as he could before his emergency fund runs out while he searches for his Info Systems career job. While we could afford to pay his health insurance, we decided not to cause of his putting his sports and hobbies ahead of it.
At this point I am tired of trying to give my years of wisdom to him as he won't listen. Things like working hard, putting career/job ahead of things as needed, getting certifications/adv training to keep up with technology, LBYM, save, save (did I say that enough?), .... We feel he has to at this point teach himself.
Would really like to hear from other retired parents on how they have successfully struggled/helped their kids get on their feet. I did not plan on this when my DW and I retired early. We have even talked about getting back to workforce to help get our son stabilized financially. I don't like that idea - enjoying retirement too much. Does parental obligation/guilt ever go away??
Appreciate your thoughts.
Kannon
After six long years our youngest finally graduated college with MIS undergrad degree. In the two years since he has gone thru three jobs, terminated at each for reason. The reasons he sees as not related to his performance. I worry he is not seeing the truth and he needs to work harder/perform better. Right now he is enjoying unemployment while continuing his sports and hobbies, living with his friends in a house, slowly searching for a new job.
We insisted he look for a part time non-career job (like UPS, Denny's,...) to collect as much money as he could before his emergency fund runs out while he searches for his Info Systems career job. While we could afford to pay his health insurance, we decided not to cause of his putting his sports and hobbies ahead of it.
At this point I am tired of trying to give my years of wisdom to him as he won't listen. Things like working hard, putting career/job ahead of things as needed, getting certifications/adv training to keep up with technology, LBYM, save, save (did I say that enough?), .... We feel he has to at this point teach himself.
Would really like to hear from other retired parents on how they have successfully struggled/helped their kids get on their feet. I did not plan on this when my DW and I retired early. We have even talked about getting back to workforce to help get our son stabilized financially. I don't like that idea - enjoying retirement too much. Does parental obligation/guilt ever go away??
Appreciate your thoughts.
Kannon