ivinsfan
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I was sympathetic until Travelfreek mentioned that not only did she want to stay in the house, she was not giving them access to his mail, which is definitely not legal or ethical. Besides, the siblings are mourning, too, plus they have the responsibility of dealing with the estate, and the GF doesn't seem to care about that, on top of which she's basically demanding money from the siblings by insisting on staying there. Also, the trustees could technically get in legal trouble for not doing what is in the best fiscal interest of the estate, although I believe only a beneficiary (which are the three siblings) would have standing to sue.
That said, I'd be inclined to let her stay for a set amount of time as long as there was a contract, maybe to pay the mortgage if there is one, and to give her right of first refusal on the house if she wanted it.
What he said was she didn't want them over and wasn't being co-operative about the mail. Were they stopping by every day on the pretext of wanting the mail and also throwing in a little pressure to move. We don't know do we? They just said the GF asked for a few months to get herself together and make new living arrangements. She didn't refuse to leave ...
Once again, let me ask if your SO died after an 18 months ordeal, how do you think you'd feel at the 3 week mark? Ready to face the future. pulling out the real estate market listing to look for a house to buy or somewhere to move?
Or would you just be putting one foot in front of the other trying to make through the day showered and with your teeth and hair brushed. Have people knocking on the door asking for the mail but really "checking" on you to see if you could give them a vacate by date
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