OldandGrey
Confused about dryer sheets
Let me start by saying my wife and I are financially sound with a large sale upcoming that will allow us to move virtually anywhere in the world. We are torn as we live next door to both our sons. We own each of their homes outright. Side by side by side. Our has a small mortgage for tax purposes. We are 62 and 61 and in decent health, could be better but oh well! So here is our issue. Please feel free to comment good or bad. We aren’t like children we can take advice regardless.
We live next door to our youngest son and his family. They are both 34 years old. They have 1 daughter 9 years old who if not for Covid would be here every day, however she really doesn’t care about us, only what we give her things I am sad to say. He works half the time, several DWI’s and she lays around all day and does nothing. We own the home they live in and it’s a total wreck.
Our oldest son lives 2 doors down from us, in another home we own. He is disabled due to severe medical issues not of his accord. He draws SSDI and he pays us an amount he can pay us every month. He is separated from his wife but his children are very close to us and come over every other weekend, and they usually spend at least one night with nana and papa when they are with our son. They are 15 and 11.
We will soon have the means to move either very far away, or close by depending on what we find in a home we will purchase with cash, so we won’t have a mortgage payment again. We have mentioned to them we are thinking of moving away and the 15 year old is begging us to stay. I know how she feels, however once she finds out about boys I’m afraid the love we get from her will fly out the window and we will be stuck here, in our by then late 60’s, with less opportunities due to age related issues.
We have been basically supporting our youngest son since he moved out at 18. He is 34 now and his maturity is still that of a teenager’s. We are tired of buying him cars, paying light bills, water bills etc etc etc at least 75% of the time. We have tried cutting him off but we can’t stand to know our granddaughter will be without food, lights, or a way to go anywhere. Hence our mixed emotions on moving. Sometimes we feel like we can’t live another day here, and then again sometimes we feel like we need to stay to make sure everyone is safe and sound.
Oh we have tried to talk to our youngest son about getting help but he doesn’t listen. He is always willing to help us if we ask him to with things we can no longer do, but he will not keep a job. McDonalds is hiring less than 6 blocks away and he told he he would never work there! Yet he has no money! HELP!
I would love to move to Montana or maybe out of the country. Somewhere like Panama or Poland intrigues me. Other times I want to just move a couple miles away just to be close by, just in case. My wife is good with moving just about anywhere.
We live next door to our youngest son and his family. They are both 34 years old. They have 1 daughter 9 years old who if not for Covid would be here every day, however she really doesn’t care about us, only what we give her things I am sad to say. He works half the time, several DWI’s and she lays around all day and does nothing. We own the home they live in and it’s a total wreck.
Our oldest son lives 2 doors down from us, in another home we own. He is disabled due to severe medical issues not of his accord. He draws SSDI and he pays us an amount he can pay us every month. He is separated from his wife but his children are very close to us and come over every other weekend, and they usually spend at least one night with nana and papa when they are with our son. They are 15 and 11.
We will soon have the means to move either very far away, or close by depending on what we find in a home we will purchase with cash, so we won’t have a mortgage payment again. We have mentioned to them we are thinking of moving away and the 15 year old is begging us to stay. I know how she feels, however once she finds out about boys I’m afraid the love we get from her will fly out the window and we will be stuck here, in our by then late 60’s, with less opportunities due to age related issues.
We have been basically supporting our youngest son since he moved out at 18. He is 34 now and his maturity is still that of a teenager’s. We are tired of buying him cars, paying light bills, water bills etc etc etc at least 75% of the time. We have tried cutting him off but we can’t stand to know our granddaughter will be without food, lights, or a way to go anywhere. Hence our mixed emotions on moving. Sometimes we feel like we can’t live another day here, and then again sometimes we feel like we need to stay to make sure everyone is safe and sound.
Oh we have tried to talk to our youngest son about getting help but he doesn’t listen. He is always willing to help us if we ask him to with things we can no longer do, but he will not keep a job. McDonalds is hiring less than 6 blocks away and he told he he would never work there! Yet he has no money! HELP!
I would love to move to Montana or maybe out of the country. Somewhere like Panama or Poland intrigues me. Other times I want to just move a couple miles away just to be close by, just in case. My wife is good with moving just about anywhere.