Hello all. A huge part of FIRE planning is deciding how you want to spend that time, or at least that's what I've gathered here over the years. I'm only 29, going on 30. With my current plans, I should be eligible for retirement at age 50, and I can decide if I want to keep working or not at that point.
I have always dreamed about retirement. That freedom to do whatever you want. I dream of waking up on a rainy day late in the morning, going to the living room to watch the news and drink some coffee with no real intentions on doing anything.
This is my personality. I do love to do stuff, don't get me wrong, but I also love to do NOTHING some days and just not be bothered. Maybe watch movies all day or binge on a new series.
My wife is completely incapable of doing that. But not only that. She is incapable of watching me do that! She would lay the guilt on thick or act irritated until we have a plan for the day or start our day. "You can't just sit around all day, the house needs cleaned or <INSET ANY CHORE HERE>" I am really worried that after working all these years and planning for retirement, it won't be what I want because of our personality differences. I guess I really don't know what to do about it. It certainly can't be a reason for divorce, but I also don't want to be unhappy in the years I should be living the "dream" right?
I feel like I can totally respect the fact that she wants to go-go-go all the time. Great! Go for it! I won't be upset. I won't try to stop her. But I would only ask that if I want to move like a sloth from time to time, to let me be! Any perspectives that could help me with this?
I have always dreamed about retirement. That freedom to do whatever you want. I dream of waking up on a rainy day late in the morning, going to the living room to watch the news and drink some coffee with no real intentions on doing anything.
This is my personality. I do love to do stuff, don't get me wrong, but I also love to do NOTHING some days and just not be bothered. Maybe watch movies all day or binge on a new series.
My wife is completely incapable of doing that. But not only that. She is incapable of watching me do that! She would lay the guilt on thick or act irritated until we have a plan for the day or start our day. "You can't just sit around all day, the house needs cleaned or <INSET ANY CHORE HERE>" I am really worried that after working all these years and planning for retirement, it won't be what I want because of our personality differences. I guess I really don't know what to do about it. It certainly can't be a reason for divorce, but I also don't want to be unhappy in the years I should be living the "dream" right?
I feel like I can totally respect the fact that she wants to go-go-go all the time. Great! Go for it! I won't be upset. I won't try to stop her. But I would only ask that if I want to move like a sloth from time to time, to let me be! Any perspectives that could help me with this?