Wheel
Recycles dryer sheets
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- Sep 20, 2005
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Back when I was working, my partner (who was also my boss in the operating hierarchy) constantly berated me for not working all day Saturday and Sunday, and even (perish the thought) leaving early on an occasional afternoon. Mainly because I was with my kids—soccer, zoo, whatever. It was important to me and my wife that we spend time as a family. During the week, I was in at 6AM and worked 12 hour days. It was what was needed to build our business. Weekends were family time.
Fast forward 10 years. We had sold the business and both of us were getting ready to ER. I’ll never forget the day he said to me that I was the one that had it right. I never expected him to admit that, but he did. His 24/7 workaholic style had almost resulted in a divorce, and he regretted that he barely knew his son and less so his daughter. He spent the next 3 years trying to make up for lost time—but not all that successfully. They had grown up without him around and once they are in their mid to late teens they don’t want you around anyway. It was too late—and nice cars for the kids, fancy vacations, etc., would not bring back that lost time.
So my advice is to find a way to spend that time with your kids while they are young. You’ll never be able to catch up if you don’t. The work will still be there at night after the kids go to bed.
Hope this helps.
Fast forward 10 years. We had sold the business and both of us were getting ready to ER. I’ll never forget the day he said to me that I was the one that had it right. I never expected him to admit that, but he did. His 24/7 workaholic style had almost resulted in a divorce, and he regretted that he barely knew his son and less so his daughter. He spent the next 3 years trying to make up for lost time—but not all that successfully. They had grown up without him around and once they are in their mid to late teens they don’t want you around anyway. It was too late—and nice cars for the kids, fancy vacations, etc., would not bring back that lost time.
So my advice is to find a way to spend that time with your kids while they are young. You’ll never be able to catch up if you don’t. The work will still be there at night after the kids go to bed.
Hope this helps.