brewer12345
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DD2 is in 3rd grade. Last year she was bullied on and off, all in the form of harassment from a principal ringleader joined late in the year by a couple of co-conspirators. We reported it to the school and the little bastards were talked to and that was it. This year it started up the first week of school with as many as 6 little bastards. we immediately wrote a very sternly-worded email to the school indicating this was not acceptable and we are in regular (almost daily) contact with the dean of students whose beat this is. Now bastads' parents are being contacted by the school and they are receiving "consequences" at school, although the dean will not tell us what this constitutes. We are trying to stay on top of this, but the school documents very little at the classroom level and the class sizes are large since the school has an excellent academic record and people have done whatever it takes to get into it. At the moment, we are pressing for more systematized documentation of incidents by the classroom teachers, and we continue to try to keep the feedback loop short when one of the little bastards starts up again. At some point, we will be forced to start going up the chain to the principal, superintendant, and possibly even showing up at school board meetings. I do not want to go there if I do not have to. We are also trying to document everything ourselves.
Any suggestions on what else we could be doing? This is all harassment, with no physical attacks to my knowledge thus far. Frankly, if it gets to that point, I will be calling the local police department and filing charges. I will then be hiring a krav maga tutor for very petite DD2, since other martial arts take forever to get to effective self defense and she will not deal well with a structured class setting for that (plus krav maga tends to teach you to go for the nads, throat and eyes, which would be a good life lesson for the bullies).
DW and I are trying to come up with other effective strategies, but are a bit at our wits' end. I had to deal with this crap as a kid at about her age and got no help from the school. It ended when the main instigator hired two boys with candy and soda to waylay me and they foolishly chose to do so on a rainy day when I had my father's big, heavy, pointy umbrella handy. I don't think that route would work well here, so other suggestions would be helpful.
Any suggestions on what else we could be doing? This is all harassment, with no physical attacks to my knowledge thus far. Frankly, if it gets to that point, I will be calling the local police department and filing charges. I will then be hiring a krav maga tutor for very petite DD2, since other martial arts take forever to get to effective self defense and she will not deal well with a structured class setting for that (plus krav maga tends to teach you to go for the nads, throat and eyes, which would be a good life lesson for the bullies).
DW and I are trying to come up with other effective strategies, but are a bit at our wits' end. I had to deal with this crap as a kid at about her age and got no help from the school. It ended when the main instigator hired two boys with candy and soda to waylay me and they foolishly chose to do so on a rainy day when I had my father's big, heavy, pointy umbrella handy. I don't think that route would work well here, so other suggestions would be helpful.