kcowan
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I had a stay-at-home wife who was Phys Ed consultant before we had our first child. After two children, when they were both in school fulltime, I started asking her to consider going back to work. I said that it was needed for our financial flexibility but also that it would be healthier for her mentally than hanging around with a bunch of unemployed females. She refused to consider it.
The big house on an acreage meant that I also spent one day a week doing maintenance of our house and property, after 50+ hours at work. I also completed several projects on the house because we could not afford to hire contractors. I started to burn out but put up with it for another 8 years. I suggested downsizing to ease the burden during that time. But all of my pleas fell on deaf ears.
We separated in 1995.
Twelve years later, with a new highly-supportive mate, I have been retired for 5 years.
I hope you have better luck dealing with this fundamental rift than I did.
The big house on an acreage meant that I also spent one day a week doing maintenance of our house and property, after 50+ hours at work. I also completed several projects on the house because we could not afford to hire contractors. I started to burn out but put up with it for another 8 years. I suggested downsizing to ease the burden during that time. But all of my pleas fell on deaf ears.
We separated in 1995.
Twelve years later, with a new highly-supportive mate, I have been retired for 5 years.
I hope you have better luck dealing with this fundamental rift than I did.