I decided to set up this fund to do a few things:
1)create a legacy to honor her contributions to the field of food science.
2)To help future deserving students financial help in their field of study.
3)Provide a place where coporate donations could go which are still in process.
4)As the only signatory donor, I get to be involved with which student/students get the award.
And how about
5) Help yourself to remember, in the middle of your pain and loss, that her life on earth MEANT something. That she was a valuable and wonderful person, and the world is better for having had her in it.
If 5 rings a bell, than I can see how you might want to maximize the fund in every way you can. She must have been a special person. Again, is it possible that if your wife were able to contribute something to the foundation from her own funds, assuming she has some seperate monies, that this might eliminate one underlying reason why this is an issue? (I think I remember that you are SELLING some things to friends, but I don't see you giving valuable things away... did I miss something here?)
It sounds like it might not help much, since you are already unhappy with levels of clutter. But I think the overall question remains -- what feelings are lying unnoticed? If your wife wants a say in cookware that she never uses, then I have to wonder if the cookware is the issue. It's not logical, so there must be an emotional component.
Have either / both of you done work around the loss, and your responses to it?
As I said, I've been in a similar boat -- it's rough seas -- hang in there!