Looking for some judgmental feedback here.
We went to the theatre the other night to se the Nutcracker. Not the worst performance we have seen. At best, mediocre.
Audience was a serious issue. On my immediate right a family of 4. Parents were late 30s/early 40s, kids 6 and 8 (all my guess).
Mother sat next to me, texted all night on a large bright screen phone/pda. Daughter hummed along with the music.
Mom and Dan shushed their little angel repeatedly but she just hummed along - to a monotone melody in her head. The Mom occasionally hid the phone in her purse, which helped, but through to the end the large bright screen was in my peripheral vision.
The 7 German ladies in the row behind us didn't object - they were too busy talking.
As usual, my wife and I argued afterwards. She is neither bothered nor distracted by this, feels that my irritation is a sign of weakness , and also believes it is tremendously rude for me to look/stare at the noisemakers (that kind of look that says please shut up and let the rest of us enjoy the show). The more I look, the madder she gets - at me. In a past life I actually asked people (politely) to stop talking, but she found that so objectionable that I had to stop to save the marriage. I occasionally put my index finger to my lips (an international sign of quite please) but this sets her off as well.
Am I over-reacting? I admit to having super hearing. I also suspect that this happens more often during poor performances, when I am more easily distracted. Is this age-related crankiness or rudeness on my part? What is an acceptable level of behaviour in a public performance and how should one react when the standards are not met?
Michael
We went to the theatre the other night to se the Nutcracker. Not the worst performance we have seen. At best, mediocre.
Audience was a serious issue. On my immediate right a family of 4. Parents were late 30s/early 40s, kids 6 and 8 (all my guess).
Mother sat next to me, texted all night on a large bright screen phone/pda. Daughter hummed along with the music.
Mom and Dan shushed their little angel repeatedly but she just hummed along - to a monotone melody in her head. The Mom occasionally hid the phone in her purse, which helped, but through to the end the large bright screen was in my peripheral vision.
The 7 German ladies in the row behind us didn't object - they were too busy talking.
As usual, my wife and I argued afterwards. She is neither bothered nor distracted by this, feels that my irritation is a sign of weakness , and also believes it is tremendously rude for me to look/stare at the noisemakers (that kind of look that says please shut up and let the rest of us enjoy the show). The more I look, the madder she gets - at me. In a past life I actually asked people (politely) to stop talking, but she found that so objectionable that I had to stop to save the marriage. I occasionally put my index finger to my lips (an international sign of quite please) but this sets her off as well.
Am I over-reacting? I admit to having super hearing. I also suspect that this happens more often during poor performances, when I am more easily distracted. Is this age-related crankiness or rudeness on my part? What is an acceptable level of behaviour in a public performance and how should one react when the standards are not met?
Michael