Bestwifeever
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+1.
If someone offers to pay for me, I let them. I say okay, thank you. It shouldn't be more difficult than that.
I'd pay for you any time
+1.
If someone offers to pay for me, I let them. I say okay, thank you. It shouldn't be more difficult than that.
Why is it so difficult to simply say "thank you"?
I wonder about chocolates. Almost every woman is unhappy with her weight; why make it hard for her by giving her chocolates? Not that she doesn't eat them anyway, but I can't bring myself to enable a behavior that causes her such a struggle.Hospitality like that definitely deserves a thank you note/letter.
I would personally kick it up with a nice box of chocolates or a local (to your area) treat. Buy it and mail it yourself.
Because the OP said "I feel kind of guilty." If someone pays my way once, I would offer to pay and just say thank you if they push it. But I could not let that happen repeatedly, as evidently was the case with the OP. I don't have a problem with someone else paying at all, but I would not be comfortable if I couldn't pay about half the time too. Not saying we need to keep score/even at all, just want to return the favor and not risk an eventual misunderstanding over the trivial cost of a meal...that's all.If someone offers to pay for me, I let them. I say okay, thank you. It shouldn't be more difficult than that.
Agreed, except it's tough getting fine wines, nice meals, and interesting company as a hermit. ... otherwise, I'd be right up there in the cave with 'em.After reading all this, I think there's much to be said for being a hermit.
OK, OK...I wonder about chocolates. Almost every woman is unhappy with her weight; why make it hard for her by giving her chocolates? Not that she doesn't eat them anyway, but I can't bring myself to enable a behavior that causes her such a struggle.
And local foods? I gave a family smoked salmon once. Really quality stuff; they absolutely hated it.
Many people would rather just go on eating whatever they usually eat. I often look in the liquor cabinet, and get a bottle of whatever is there.
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Buy fine wine, nice meal, and log on here. Problem solved.megacorp-firee said:Agreed, except it's tough getting fine wines, nice meals, and interesting company as a hermit. ... otherwise, I'd be right up there in the cave with 'em.
Why is it so difficult to simply say "thank you"?
After reading all this, I think there's much to be said for being a hermit.
Because the OP said "I feel kind of guilty." If someone pays my way once, I would offer to pay and just say thank you if they push it. But I could not let that happen repeatedly, as evidently was the case with the OP.
been doing it for years nowBuy fine wine, nice meal, and log on here. Problem solved.
EXACTLY!When I want to treat someone, having them argue takes away some of the pleasure of giving.
I wonder about chocolates. Almost every woman is unhappy with her weight; why make it hard for her by giving her chocolates? Not that she doesn't eat them anyway, but I can't bring myself to enable a behavior that causes her such a struggle.
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No need to worry. Women are perfectly capable of deciding whether or not to let you enable them. Plus, one box of chocolates never made anybody fat...it's steady intake that does the damage Good chocolate is a favorite with many women; if you aren't sure if she would enjoy chocolates, just ask her!
Amethyst
For myself, I never met a fine Belgian [-]chocolate[/-] I didn't like.
If someone gave me chocolates I would wait until they left and throw them away.No need to worry. Women are perfectly capable of deciding whether or not to let you enable them. Plus, one box of chocolates never made anybody fat...it's steady intake that does the damage Good chocolate is a favorite with many women; if you aren't sure if she would enjoy chocolates, just ask her!
Amethyst
THROW THEM AWAY !!!!If someone gave me chocolates I would wait until they left and throw them away.
But then, I am not a woman.
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I yield to Freebird and Amethyst. You know much more about this than I do.THROW THEM AWAY !!!!
No, no, no...make a friend. GIVE them away.