Busy retirees can still feel empty and miss their jobs

[Nords]

Yeah, but I think you don't get to drink much beer if you want to keep a stripper body going for tips. So that's pretty much out as far as I'm concerned.

I dunno... I've seen strippers do amazing things with those beer bottles... he may want to keep all career options open!

 

[Sarah in SC]

I dunno... I've seen strippers do amazing things with those beer bottles... he may want to keep all career options open!

Ahem, I don't think that qualifies as DRINKING the beer, Nords. And just where have you been hanging out...do we need to talk to your [-]boss[/-] wife?

 

[Nords]

And just where have you been hanging out...do we need to talk to your [-]boss[/-] wife?

We had a table for two... join the Navy, see the world...

 

[deserat]

I second Nords' observations - join the military, see the world - a lot more than you bargain for many times......

I have an observation - I have been semi-retired and am now going back to work for a bit - was mentally not happy with the way I allocated my time while semi-retired, but now with the work I am even more unhappy with the way my time is allocated.....doing what I want to do when I want to is definitely much more appealing - now getting rid of the "I really should accomplish more with this time now that I can what I want when I want it" monkey is the other issue - but I've decided I like that issue over the Same Old $hit people in the office and what they think, compete, do, think, say, arghhhhhhhh! It doesn't matter wherever you are, the same cast of characters doing the same things...amazign! Tasting freedom and then going back to work is just plain mean!

 

[BunsGettingFirm]

Ahem, I don't think that qualifies as DRINKING the beer, Nords. And just where have you been hanging out...do we need to talk to your [-]boss[/-] wife?

I'm talking about being a stripper in the US, not Thailand.

 

[Purron]

I just wanted to update my prior response to this tread. Since DH broke his arm, there is NO WAY I could ever imagine missing w*ork. Thank God I'm here to take care of him, our house and about a ba-gillion other things. If I was still working, life would suck for DH and I big time.

 

[bbbamI]

Since DH broke his arm, there is NO WAY I could ever imagine missing w*ork. Thank God I'm here to take care of him, our house and about a ba-gillion other things. If I was still working, life would suck for DH and I big time.

Having a spouse/SO at home is a definite plus.

During our marriage, I w*rked 22 years and have taken care of DH for almost 32 years. He retired three months ago. It's time for DH to take care of bbbamI. We'll see how that goes.....

 

[Nords]

I'm talking about being a stripper in the US, not Thailand.

Why, me too-- everywhere-- Norfolk, San Diego, San Francisco, Port [-]Liquor[/-]Lauderdale, Charleston, New London, Bangor/Bremerton/Everett, Olongapo, Bangkok, Chinhae, Yokosuka, Tokyo, and even Guam!

The reason the list isn't longer is because my submarine liberty ports generally sucked...

 

[Gillette]

I'm currently reading Chained to the Desk and it's truly eye-opening. There are quite a few posters in this thread (and the orignial writer of the article) that probably should give it a read. What is referred to by most here as type A personality, Robinson calls work-aholics. In other words, addicted to work - and not necessarily gainful employment. He calls it the best dressed addiction. The basic inability to be still and not doing something productive - volunteering, contract work, "projects" (a workaholic would not view reading on the sun deck as productive). There is an anxiety some people feel when they're not scheduled every minute. This is probably why they fail at slowing down, for not addressing this compulsive need they have to fill their lives with "doing".

 

[W2R]

I'm currently reading Chained to the Desk and it's truly eye-opening. There are quite a few posters in this thread (and the orignial writer of the article) that probably should give it a read. What is referred to by most here as type A personality, Robinson calls work-aholics. In other words, addicted to work - and not necessarily gainful employment. He calls it the best dressed addiction. The basic inability to be still and not doing something productive - volunteering, contract work, "projects" (a workaholic would not view reading on the sun deck as productive). There is an anxiety some people feel when they're not scheduled every minute. This is probably why they fail at slowing down, for not addressing this compulsive need they have to fill their lives with "doing".

Good - - this definitely sounds like something that will not be a problem for me, in that case! I have no problem being still and not doing something productive. If anyone here is truly having trouble successfully goofing off, I can tell you that having a Wii hooked up to a big plasma TV helps tremendously in that endeavor.

 

[donheff]

If anyone here is truly having trouble successfully goofing off, I can tell you that having a Wii hooked up to a big plasma TV helps tremendously in that endeavor.

No problem goofing off but I have been considering a Wii for our weekend place. I don't like shooters or RPGs but have often wondered whether I might enjoy some of the sports games. Someone suggested getting a PS2 with an external HD crammed with videos instead - decisions, decisions.

 

[Khan]

I'm currently reading Chained to the Desk and it's truly eye-opening. There are quite a few posters in this thread (and the orignial writer of the article) that probably should give it a read. What is referred to by most here as type A personality, Robinson calls work-aholics. In other words, addicted to work - and not necessarily gainful employment. He calls it the best dressed addiction. The basic inability to be still and not doing something productive - volunteering, contract work, "projects" (a workaholic would not view reading on the sun deck as productive). There is an anxiety some people feel when they're not scheduled every minute. This is probably why they fail at slowing down, for not addressing this compulsive need they have to fill their lives with "doing".

"Sometimes I sits and thinks, and sometimes I just sits."

 

[kumquat]

"Sometimes I sits and thinks, and sometimes I just sits."

You are overdoing it. Such actions could harm you.

 

[vicente solano]

"Sometimes I sits and thinks, and sometimes I just sits."

That´s me too.
BTW what was the name of the 60s rock band who played the song Sittin¨And Thinkin¨? Could it have been Small Faces?

 

[Purron]

That´s me too.
BTW what was the name of the 60s rock band who played the song Sittin¨And Thinkin¨? Could it have been Small Faces?

Spencer Davis Group perhaps? "Sittin' and Thinkin'" comes in at about 3:05

YouTube - The Spencer Davis Group on "Beat Beat Beat", 1966 Pt. 1

 

[vicente solano]

Spencer Davis Group perhaps? "Sittin' and Thinkin'" comes in at about 3:05

YouTube - The Spencer Davis Group on "Beat Beat Beat", 1966 Pt. 1

I am sure you are right. Ah, those were the days,...Yes they were!

 

[Zoocat]

Why does retirement have to wonderful & fulfilling ? My work for forty years was sometimes fulfilling sometimes boring and sometimes just plain awful . Retirement is just another phase of life sometimes great , sometimes boring but luckily it has not been just plain awful.

Exactly! I totally agree. Also, I would think a type A person would not like to totally retire. A person who needs to be always busy to alleviate that anxiety should probably find some part time work or volunteer job that would fulfill the need to be recognized.

Those of us who are content to be alone, to pursue activites that require no outside approval are ideally suited to retire. Introverts especially! Aren't we lucky! The only time in our lives that introverts have an advantage is in retirement.

 

[ejman]

Exactly! I totally agree. Also, I would think a type A person would not like to totally retire. A person who needs to be always busy to alleviate that anxiety should probably find some part time work or volunteer job that would fulfill the need to be recognized.

Those of us who are content to be alone, to pursue activites that require no outside approval are ideally suited to retire. Introverts especially! Aren't we lucky! The only time in our lives that introverts have an advantage is in retirement.

Amen to that! It is totally exhausting to watch a confirmed type A going about their "thing". I know am biased but it seems to me that all that busywork is simply a reflection of their difficulty in making friends with their own selves.

 

[freebird5825]

Amen to that! It is totally exhausting to watch a confirmed type A going about their "thing". I know am biased but it seems to me that all that busywork is simply a reflection of their difficulty in making friends with their own selves.

Exactly! I totally agree. Also, I would think a type A person would not like to totally retire. A person who needs to be always busy to alleviate that anxiety should probably find some part time work or volunteer job that would fulfill the need to be recognized.

Those of us who are content to be alone, to pursue activites that require no outside approval are ideally suited to retire. Introverts especially! Aren't we lucky! The only time in our lives that introverts have an advantage is in retirement.

Interesting takes on Type A behavior.
I confess to being a Type A- after 2 years of FIRE.
I have always been intrigued by the introvert personality type. I have many good friends who are introverts. We get along just fine. I've corrupted 1 or 2 along the way.

As an alternative, the busy-ness you observe could be a restless mind in motion and can be the reason for activity and accomplishment.
You are right on the mark - recognition is indeed a big part of what I do in the volunteer arena. It is more self-recognition than back-patting from others. And it is fun!

 

[Orchidflower]

I've always been a type A worker, but I have to say that Rustic23 stated my thoughts totally. Took about 3 years to get into this doing nothing phase, but I learned well...maybe too well.
My main creative outlet now seems to be learning to make food I always loved but never made before, and that's been alot of fun (tabouleh made with homegrown parsley and mint, stuffed pork loin, pesto sauce, etc.). Not hard stuff, but just things I never took the time to create before.
At this point, tho, I still plan to get into some moneymaking effort when I am thru eldercaring--so I consider this 5 years and counting phase my retirement now.
But we'll see...we'll see...I may just keep this as a lifestyle. Who knows at this point? I'm just cruising along right now...and enjoying it alot at this stage.