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Old 09-03-2010, 01:18 AM   #61
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From a wife's perspective:

I would WANT to know if my DH feels that he slides into depression.
I could understand some of his behavior and moods much better. Do not believe that your DW did not notice some of your changes. I bet she did but just is reluctant to talk before you open up.
I know I cannot not talk DH out of depression or provide help in a medical way. But I can reassure him that it is OK to look for professional help and that it does not reduce my love or change our relationship if he admits that there is a problem.
IMO husband and wife are a team. This can only work if both are open about team issues.
My DH had some medical problems on and off during the last 3 years. At some points he was close to depression IMO. We had a excellent relationship before, but being very open about all of this has connected us even more.

Please reconsider.
All the best to you and DW.

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Old 09-03-2010, 10:45 AM   #62
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Vicente, Latin and US cultures view early retirement much differently. Itís possible you are not enjoying enough support from neighbors, friends, or even family. Latin culture (my experience in South America, but directly derived from Spain) views ER by a man as something unusual and not generally positive. At the same time, volunteering is not well established and opportunities are not common. I can see how it would be challenging for you in Spain.

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You really need to get medical attention for your eyes Ė you canít let that hold you down.

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