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I play golf regularly with over 20 guys. All of us are at least comfortably FIRE or SIRE. One guys (alias Joe) wife has had several health issues for many years. She recently had a cancer relapse, began treatments, but it’s been so difficult she’s elected to stop treatments.
The guy who informally leads the golf, just texted all of us suggesting we take up a collection for Joe. He has good intentions I’m sure. I’m more the happy to contribute to collections especially as a thank you, but I’m not sure this is a situation that calls for it? Joe doesn’t need the money, so he could be confused or mildly resentful? I know I wouldn’t want the guys to take up a collection for me were I in the same situation - a little money won’t help, and we don’t need it.
Curious how others react.
[edit: “Joe” is a modest man who never looks for attention or sympathy, would never ask for anything. We’re all big fans of Joe, nicest guy in the world. Doesn’t affect what’s appropriate to me, but some asked. YMMV]
The guy who informally leads the golf, just texted all of us suggesting we take up a collection for Joe. He has good intentions I’m sure. I’m more the happy to contribute to collections especially as a thank you, but I’m not sure this is a situation that calls for it? Joe doesn’t need the money, so he could be confused or mildly resentful? I know I wouldn’t want the guys to take up a collection for me were I in the same situation - a little money won’t help, and we don’t need it.
Curious how others react.
[edit: “Joe” is a modest man who never looks for attention or sympathy, would never ask for anything. We’re all big fans of Joe, nicest guy in the world. Doesn’t affect what’s appropriate to me, but some asked. YMMV]
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