ERD50
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Well you can call your DD a freeloader, but then you have to call you and your spouse enablers.
How did this happen?..there has to be part of the story you are not telling us...
Nailed it.
You are making it easy for her, and then wonder why she stays? Think about that, for one second, that's all it should take.
The max we had an adult child in the home was about one year. It was fine, a transitional thing. We all figured it made sense to give her new job about a year to make sure she wanted to stay at that job, before moving. She ended up staying, and got an apartment closer to her job at about the one year mark. All is good.
-ERD50