Danmar
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Nobody wins in divorce court. Except the lawyers.
Remember it's about the kids. Not proving which parent is better. Not making the other parent look bad.
Remember in this land of freedom, we own nothing. The court can and will take whatever they want from your son.
Sorry, this is opening up some old wounds. My heart goes out to your son. All I can say is take the high road, do (and say) what he knows is right for the kids, don't focus on material things, don't get into petty arguments. Try to see things from the kids' point of view, which means they should never be in the middle of their parents' disagreements. It'll pay off in the end, in ways no-one can even imagine now.
Good luck!!
Totally agree. I went through a terrible divorce. Throughout, my objective was always and only to maintain my relationship with my daughter. It was very difficult and at times I wanted to give up and say “have a nice life” but I just couldn’t. It was the most difficult thing I ever did. Have a very close relationship with her now, 25 years later.
My advice to your son. Do what’s best for the kids and be willing to pay almost anything to accomplish this. Never lie or mislead, no name calling or bad mouthing. Realize you are at disadvantage but don’t be bitter. It will be difficult but in the end worth it. Always take the high road.