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Our youngest DS recently got engaged to the most wonderful girl! They've dated for 4 years, waiting for DS to finish college and get a good job. DDIL has another year of college, so they are looking at a Summer wedding.
DW and I are trying to determine how much to contribute to their wedding. DDIL comes from a great family, but not much financial sense. The wedding DDIL has in mind could get expensive, and while her family is very encouraging of all her ideas, we are afraid they will leave them hanging when it comes time to pay. This will leave DS stuck with paying off the bills (DDIL has a low paying job while in college) or they will look to us to pony up more than we had planned.
Our older DS married 20 months ago, and we also helped with their wedding. However, that DDIL came from a family that could afford more, and DS & DDIL already had great jobs that allowed them to fund more of the costs.
Our ability to pay is not the issue, we can. However, many of the decisions being made are very frivolous to us, and a lot of money will be wasted. DDIL has this princess fantasy about weddings, and not a lot of financial common sense (which obviously comes from her family).
Should we just tell them how much we contributed to our other DS wedding and let them decide how to spend it? And if they go over their budget let it be a life lesson? As a recovering control freak, this is very hard for me to do! Thanks!!
DW and I are trying to determine how much to contribute to their wedding. DDIL comes from a great family, but not much financial sense. The wedding DDIL has in mind could get expensive, and while her family is very encouraging of all her ideas, we are afraid they will leave them hanging when it comes time to pay. This will leave DS stuck with paying off the bills (DDIL has a low paying job while in college) or they will look to us to pony up more than we had planned.
Our older DS married 20 months ago, and we also helped with their wedding. However, that DDIL came from a family that could afford more, and DS & DDIL already had great jobs that allowed them to fund more of the costs.
Our ability to pay is not the issue, we can. However, many of the decisions being made are very frivolous to us, and a lot of money will be wasted. DDIL has this princess fantasy about weddings, and not a lot of financial common sense (which obviously comes from her family).
Should we just tell them how much we contributed to our other DS wedding and let them decide how to spend it? And if they go over their budget let it be a life lesson? As a recovering control freak, this is very hard for me to do! Thanks!!