athena53
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Apparently, they talked to their priest and came to the realization that if they were "married" in the church in a spiritually valid ceremony, but never applied for or filed a marriage license, the great State of New York wouldn't recognize that they were married!
I'm very surprised by this. I'd heard (from clergy) that it was illegal for them to perform a valid marriage ceremony and not report it to the state. My grandpa tried when he remarried after being widowed and the priest wouldn't do it, so they got a church ceremony and she lost her widow's pension from her first marriage.
DH and I ARE deeply religious and our union in the eyes of God and the church is for keeps. We never wanted the state involved in our religious rite in the first place and if it were advantageous to get the state out of the equation we would.