John,
I've looked at Match.com.
What was your experiece like.
I'm thinking of trying it.
Any advise?
txs
I'm not John, and I think John stated that he found his wife through an online process. So that is real success.
Several of my women friends use Match.com. They are both cute, but pretty used to being single, and maybe not real eager to pass the USDA inspection process.
Anyway, they have had a lot of coffee dates, and a few dinners. None were bad, but obviously nothing was going anywhere.
In fact, it astonishes me whenever middle-aged people who are not old friends become long term lovers. How can this happen? Falling in love requires blindness to reality that is much easier to achieve when you are young.
I was sitting with one of the women mentioned above the day after a Match.com date. It was hysterical, although I didn't laugh. Her requirements were first that he be "presentable"-- you know, middle class or better job, OK car, reasonable house or apartment. But that was only the start. He had to hate George Bush. He had to be a skilled dancer, including swing and salsa. He had to be at least a few inches taller than she-and she is 5' 8". A little belly is ok, but.....
Anyway, I am sure his requirements were similarly hopeless, so they both continue to run their ads.
One thing that definitely promotes people getting together is disaster. There were several marriages among middle aged people in my dance community after 9/11. I think hurricanes have the same effect.
You are probably young; I didn't check. You have likely thought of or even tried the suggestions I am about to make. So, I apologize for my presumption. But here goes.
If I were young and looking for a woman, I would do some heavy thinking about what type I wanted, and go make myself useful in an environment where those sorts of women might be found. For example, I have found that nurses are an easy group of people for me to like. So I would see if I could maybe volunteer in a hospital, or somewhere that I might come into contact with nurses in an everyday, "getting something useful done" environment. Then be competent, friendly, and casual. So many people are lonely that you almost have to make some hookups.
Mikey