Well, we're finally both RE, have been married 36 years and dated 6 years before that. Empty nesters for the past decade or so. So, lots of practice being together......and being apart.
You spend the amount of time together you want to spend together. And you spend the amount of time doing your own thing that you want to.
Not wanting to abandon her pre-RE life completely, DW now spends about 20 hours a week working with "special" kids, primarily minorites, in conjunction with a local school district. She's an award winning special ed teacher and a true blessing to the families she advocates for within the public education systems she is so familar with.
I try to keep the house running.......
........ and spend two days a week with our cerebral palsey afflicted grandson. I get top notch guidance from DW with this. It grieves me that his life will be a struggle. But working with him is fulfilling......lots of pats on the back from his parents, therapists, DW and teachers on how much I am accomplishing under their guidance.
DW and I both have hobbies. We both have lots of friends and activities outside of each other.
Now Er'd, we are free to stay home and spend 100% of our time together if we'd like. But this schedule seems right for now. There's been no issue of suddenly being together too much. Rather, we can now choose to spend the amount of time together we'd like.
RE is really, really good.