I have some friends going through a tough time in their marriage and are separating after 20 years together. One spouse is depressed, has lost interest in their marriage, and is moving out. The other is surprised and heart broken. A divorce is going to be financially devastating for them. Since the two live close to cheaply as one, dividing assets 50-50 effectively means each are losing half their assets.
So, from the Association of Matrimonial Lawyers:
Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, we hear some reasons more often than others.
They are:
Poor communication
Financial problems
A lack of commitment to the marriage
A dramatic change in priorities
Infidelity
There are other causes we see a lot, but not quite as often as those listed above
They are:
Failed expectations or unmet needs
Addictions and substance abuse
Physical, sexual or emotional abuse
Lack of conflict resolution skills
http://www.aaml.org/files/public/Making_Marriage_Last.htm
Do a marital "checkup" and check to be sure you are OK.
So, from the Association of Matrimonial Lawyers:
Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, we hear some reasons more often than others.
They are:
Poor communication
Financial problems
A lack of commitment to the marriage
A dramatic change in priorities
Infidelity
There are other causes we see a lot, but not quite as often as those listed above
They are:
Failed expectations or unmet needs
Addictions and substance abuse
Physical, sexual or emotional abuse
Lack of conflict resolution skills
http://www.aaml.org/files/public/Making_Marriage_Last.htm
Do a marital "checkup" and check to be sure you are OK.