Albireo13, I feel the pain of your posting, and it surely reflects badly on your coworkers who were likely hoping someone else would organize some sort of last day recognition events. It sounds like your experience is not an isolated one, but 35 years? Geez!
I only had 10 years at my last employment, and I think I fell on the more introverted spectrum of personality traits, so my expectations were not high on my last day. Yet, the nurses quietly organized cake, presents, gifts, a framed photo collage of nearly 50 employees, and were initially organizing a pot-luck lunch. When one of my colleagues saw this, he said, oh no, he'll organize a catered buffet-style luncheon in the employee lounge. Every effort on their part felt bittersweet, but I noticed my colleagues said very little. So I individually went to 8 of them, said I would like to take a picture for the memories. Each one of them looked surprised, and happy, and relieved. I wasn't sure why I detected they looked relieved. Is it that hard to tell someone they enjoyed working with them? Or something like that?