Bestwifeever
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Maybe I'm the one whom you thought was insulted. No, I wasn't. Believe me, not at all. Your post simply pushed my "shout it from the rooftops" button. Whenever somebody mentions SLP, I start spewing whatever I said here in my first post.
So, no matter what you would have said, sometimes I just become a walking ad for that movie. I'm active in NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness, which supports all efforts to de-stigmatize mental illness. My husband and I run a support group for families with loved ones suffering the ravages of brain disorders. So, at least once a month, we try to patiently listen to and encourage husbands, or wives, or children, or parents, or siblings who face each day what you watched in SLP.
So, again, please forgive me for my strong reaction. It wasn't you.....
This is a clear example of web communications lacking the nuance of in-person discussion: when I said to be glad you were bored, and that you could then get up and leave, I too did not mean to insult YOU.
I just meant what I said. It's really nice that you found it boring.....and that you were able to walk away from it. Because that means that you don't face these behaviors on a daily basis. That means that there is peace in your life......or, at the very least, you don't have to go home and deal with someone who has a brain disorder.
I intended no "edge," "touchiness," or "over-reaction" in my observation. I just meant that you had a good reason to be glad! (The same kind of "glad" we find in sunny days, new-sprung daffodils, weddings, etc.) Sometimes boredom can be a real gift. The folks who come to NAMI support groups would give anything to be bored.
And, again, there is no "edge" or sarcastic nuance in this statement.
I'm simply reporting, for their sake. (And maybe also for the sake of the mom in the film. In a nightmare, I could become her.........EGAD!)
Litgal, I absolutely loved this movie for many reasons and probably foremost is that it was not dark and bleak, while also not rose-colored glasses, either, because life does go on. I liked that the main character wasn't portrayed as flatout scary and by the end the family was settling into a sort of new reality. And a love story to boot. And the mom cooking her "crabbies and homemades" holding things together. All so good.
DH has a lifelong very good friend who was diagnosed about 15 years ago as bipolar which made a lot of sense of his career's extreme successes and spectactular failures. Very hard on his family and those who love and support him emotionally. Hugs to you.