FreeAtLast
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Great list! I wish I saw it about 30 years ago. I am sure guilty of working far too much.
This list doesn't do much for me. I'd much prefer a list of those top five items that provided the greatest satisfaction, gratification, bliss, happiness, contentment, etc.
Wow. I don't know what this thread did to annoy you, but maybe you'd be better off starting a thread about "top five successes of the dying". I'm pretty sure that's a book opportunity all its own, too.An example would be raising children and the experiences that it provides.
I don't know the answers because I'm not on my deathbed. If someone asked me the regrets question while I was on my deathbed I'd tell them to get the hell away from me. My regret would be them asking me the question. I'd much prefer to reflect back on why my life was such a positive experience.
I think that there is more to be gained by learning what people succeeded at rather than what they failed at.
I think the deathbed regrets are mainly of the variety "... and it's too late for me to do anything about it". Any other time, if we had those regrets then we'd either rectify the situation or dismiss the thought.(or, then again, too few to mention, heh, heh).
If that's the biggest problem he encountered on WWII Okinawa then I'd suggest that his regrets also fall into the category of "too few to mention"...My dear FIL passed away earlier this year at the age of 87. His biggest regret? Drinking beer/getting drunk on Okinawa during WWII. I think that was the only time in his life that he strayed from his Baptist beliefs. It only took a War and flying a dozen or so combat missions plus a little peer pressure from his Marine buddies.
Nords said:Wow. I don't know what this thread did to annoy you, but maybe you'd be better off starting a thread about "top five successes of the dying". I'm pretty sure that's a book opportunity all its own, too.
I think the deathbed regrets are mainly of the variety "... and it's too late for me to do anything about it". Any other time, if we had those regrets then we'd either rectify the situation or dismiss the thought.
BTW your Sinatra reference might be too obscure for the younger crowd!
My daughter and I were at a taekwondo clinic a few years ago. As we stood around in our gear waiting for the sparring to start, the instructor put on that song from Frank's "Greatest Hits" CD for inspiration. I was already laughing and enjoying the music when my daughter said "Who's that singer?" As I laughed even harder, one of her (older) black-belt women friends named C.J. came over and said "You know that's Frank Sinatra, right?" My daughter said "Frank who? Oh, is he one of those 'oldies' guys?"
C.J. laid my daughter on the floor with one punch.
If that's the biggest problem he encountered on WWII Okinawa then I'd suggest that his regrets also fall into the category of "too few to mention"...
My dear FIL passed away earlier this year at the age of 87. His biggest regret? Drinking beer/getting drunk on Okinawa during WWII. I think that was the only time in his life that he strayed from his Baptist beliefs. It only took a War and flying a dozen or so combat missions plus a little peer pressure from his Marine buddies.
When I was growing up, rock&roll was not played in my house. Barely even the Beatles, and then only their "pop" songs.Nords, I caught the "My Way", but its funny I never knew that was Sinatras signature song until much later in life. Growing up I listened to alot of Paul Anka ( who wrote it of course) and Elvis. I thought in my early teen years that was their song as those were the only versions I heard, not Sinatra's.
I don't think I have anything to regret, if I were to die soon, other than I should not be dying at my age, though plenty of unfortunate people have had much less time than I have had.
The conventional wisdom seems to be 70% of current projected benefits, though I am sure there are other estimates. ... Health care is in more trouble than Soc Sec.
I would love to hear a few anecdotes of what exactly people meant by their dreams. The knee-jerk thought is that they chose the safe career over a risky venture, but maybe people have more unique dreams that we don't know about? .
Looking back, some things I would have done different but I made the best decisions at that time. Life only gets better.
All thanks to a boss who wouldn't let me settle for "what if"... I hope the angels smile on her
...the happier ones are like you and my DH, who thinks regrets are a waste of time (which is true, I'm sure)...
What a great boss! And cheers to your upcoming RV phase of life!...life is exciting, I've done lots of weird and wonderful things, travel a lot, and now I've bought an RV and am planning the next phase of my gypsy lifestyle.
All thanks to a boss who wouldn't let me settle for "what if"... I hope the angels smile on her