Wedding Gift when not invited?

[MarieIG]

Ok. Egg on my face. Had an hour long chat with my sister. It's a real wedding. But my siblings / siblings families / me & mine aren't invited. So makes gift giving easy. I enrolled his kids in PJLibrary and another book service so they'd each get 2 somethings each month (he asked for help building a library on the baby registries). That'll continue on PJLibrary for the kids. But no wedding gift.

Am I a A××hole?

No you are not. When they tell you; you can extend your verbal congratulations.

 

[pacergal]

Nope.
In my book, Gift giving is a choice , not an obligation, especially if you are not invited!

 

[truenorth418]

For niece or nephew I send a card with a nice note and $250.

I no longer attend any weddings in person (due to the all usual drama and unpleasantness, whether friends or family) so whether I get invited or not is irrelevant.