But i have a traditional ira with about 14,000 so I have to do all that prorata stuff. This sounds complicated. Is it?
Look up IRS form 8606 and instructions. It isn't too bad.
You can make non-deductible contributions and then convert them
at any time in the future when the tax implications might be less. In
particular, if you are within a few years of retirement and your plans
include converting IRA balances when your tax rates are less, you
would convert your non-deductible balances then. The downside is
that earnings in the interim would be considered deductible balances.
If you have a few more years with employment income where you
could do backdoor Roths, it is probably worth paying a tax expert
to work up a best case strategy.
A related but separate strategy is the
mega backdoor Roth.
If your husband has access to a 401K that allows after tax contributions,
that would be another way to put an even larger amount of your savings
into a Roth.