SecondCor521
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Financially, divorce will be a tough row to hoe. Divorce laws vary from state to state, but in my state in this case the unproductive hubby could ask for and maybe probably get half the assets, perhaps some alimony, and even have her pay him child support if he has the kids at all. If they divorce she will also be saddled with additional child care payments. Overall, too, with having to have two of everything (two houses, two sets of kids' clothes, two sets of kids' bedrooms, etc.), she'll probably suffer a 30% drop in her standard of living.
On the other hand, if the hubby is the unproductive and unrepentant drain on their finances, eventually -- perhaps in 3-7 years -- she'll be better off financially.
I'd agree with the others to not bail them out, like it sounds like you intend to do. I'd also say to support her emotionally if she decides to divorce him. Finally, the kids will need a lot of love and care through whatever happens, and they didn't ask for any of this. It's great if grandparents can help that way.
2Cor521
On the other hand, if the hubby is the unproductive and unrepentant drain on their finances, eventually -- perhaps in 3-7 years -- she'll be better off financially.
I'd agree with the others to not bail them out, like it sounds like you intend to do. I'd also say to support her emotionally if she decides to divorce him. Finally, the kids will need a lot of love and care through whatever happens, and they didn't ask for any of this. It's great if grandparents can help that way.
2Cor521