My guess is that eventually there would be some kind of tip-off, like the mail piling up, some bill not getting paid, or the neighbors becoming concerned if the grass grew too tall and unruly. So, it could conceivably be awhile before someone discovered me.
One of the nightmare experiences in my life was doing a wellness check on a neighbor. My other neighbor was called by a child to check on his father, who had serious health issues. The child gave him the code to the door. My neighbor then asked me to go in with him as support (good idea, BTW). We enter and call out his name, and can't find him anywhere.
We finally get up to the top bedroom farthest away from doors, and there he is, face down in the couch with the rest of his body on the floor. But he was a live, barely. He clearly fell, so we didn't want to move him (another good idea). While waiting for 911, we pushed the cushion down to expose his mouth and nose and we got a small groan out of him.
911 came quick. It was good to have a lookout for 911, and someone else to keep him company.
911 moved his body and he immediately coded. They had to resuscitate him on site. He was alive for a few days in the hospital until he passed. At least his family was able to come in and say good bye.
My take-aways about things done right:
- He had someone checking by phone at least once a day
- They had someone local (my neighbor) as back up to help with the check in.
- My neighbor got backup (me) for the wellness check
- We didn't move someone in distress, just allowed better breathing
Yes, he could have called 911 to back him up for the wellness, but we honestly thought it would be nothing, just a misunderstanding. We did not expect to find him near death. My neighbor also casually knew him a bit. If this was a complete stranger kind of neighbor, we wouldn't have done it.
It's seasonal here and many of the homes are second homes, so I don't think anyone would notice until there was an odor! We were going to the gym and were thinking of joining the Unitarian church, when COVID hit. So no real contacts other than tradespeople. The lawn and pool people would notice if we didn't pay them.
Six months after moving here, and with me outside in the yard nearly every day, I was shocked when the guy remodeling the foreclosure next door, tore down the fence between our homes (there are swimming pools!) without a word to us. His excuse was "I never saw a car in the driveway, so I figured nobody lived there."
That was bad enough, but then I met the mailman, who, for once, brought a package to the door and rang the bell. He, too, expressed a certain amount of surprise that someone lived here full time. He said he'd started seeing new names on the mail (mostly junk these days), figured renters...but he also noticed the yard was being cared for and the grass was looking good, so now he knew why!
I'm not as concerned about not being found after a sudden death but it would be pretty awful to lie helpless and conscious with something that could be treated. A friend who was an IT gig worker had a stroke in his hotel room far from home and he said it took "the better part of a day" to get to his phone and get help. I wonder how much better his recovery would have been with earlier intervention. I really need to get one of those "I've fallen and I can't get up" devices but I'm "only" 68 so I'm fighting it.
Amethyst, you just need to get out more! Lol
Amethyst: I hope in time you make connections with the year-rounders. I think you will. When I lived near Boca, we year-rounders eventually got to know each other and keep a look-out for each other.And most of them have seasonal homes elsewhere. We're the rare year-rounders. That's the real rub. In MD we lived far apart on huge lots, but our next-door neighbors clearly kept an eye on us.
I really need to get one of those "I've fallen and I can't get up" devices but I'm "only" 68 so I'm fighting it.
I try to keep my cell phone on me as much as I can. It takes a little more dexterity to use than the alert device but at least for now it's good enough.