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I’ve never had a problem giving space and encouraging her to ‘do her own thing’ some. And she has her own set of friends. But I’m worried she may not want me to do my own thing much. We’ve talked, she says she will, but she’s very clingy on weekends now. That won’t work for me 7 days/week. We’ll see. After 39 years, she still surprises me regularly...I was reading a study done by people who had divorced multiple times but then finally married and it stuck (a very specific yet logical sampling of "married") and they said one of the things all respondents stated that caused failure of the prior marriages, but not current marriages was having your own identity but being able to adapt as your spouse's identities change throughout the course of the marriage. This is because your identities WILL change. So my advice, be open-minded and understanding, give space when needed.
And we’re relocating so we’re both going to have zero friends for a while. Making new friends gets harder as we age IME. That could force us to rely on each other more for a while at least.
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