Mr. Tightwad
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
I think the lawyers will be the winners here.
Yes. When I contacted her to discuss proceeding with probating his will, she informed me of this as described in the original post.
I wouldn't think that he would be competent to execute a revised will after 4 years in memory care.
Sorry, but this is not clear to me in the OP.
Have you told the lawyer in Texas that there is a new will?
In my mind, having a new will changes everything. If SIL did the new will with an attorney (a.k.a liar for hire), I'd say good luck getting it overturned.
Well, you should have a POA signed while you're still competent, but if his sister was using it to manage his affairs before the new will was signed, that would matter.Not to mention why would he have needed a POA to do even the simplest things for him for the last 4 years if he were mentally competent to make such a decision?
Correct on the POA. I had a POA for my mom for the last decade of her life. It can be done at any time and can also be used at any time. She boasted to her friends that I never stole her money like some other people's kids did.
I am very sorry for what you are going through. I'm glad you have an attorney and the court will decide. I suspect that a will changed after 4 years in memory care will be a tough sell to a judge.
The POA is terminated when the person dies. We found that out when mom died. I had financial POA and my sister had medical POA. I was executor and successor trustee to her living trust so I was still able to mostly function but not until a separate trust account was set up. My sister immediately lost all access to mom's medical records which made resolving a few outstanding issues more difficult.She suggested that she could just handle everything since as his POA, she had been handling his affairs for the last several years
With the way she’s behaving, she seems to be an evil person and I wouldn’t want her in my life anyway.
Yes, she absolutely does. That’s why she had him do a different one. She didn’t think his other beneficiaries needed to be in it.
Not going back to look but IIRC it was changed after one year... I would agree if it were near the end of life after 4 years it would be tough..
I wonder if she has thoughts of probating "her" new will before you do? Maybe she named herself the executor of his estate? (thinking bad things happening here...)
It was AFTER 4 years of living in Memory Care according to the SIL, within a year of death.
Then I would have your attorney make sure that if she probates the new one that it is contested... I cannot see a judge accepting that one even if a paid for lawyer says it is good..
I can see it working if it was done to make things easier and nobody was going to contest it as the court would not have any knowledge that it might be up to snuff...
This may be naive, but I was just blown away today. My brother-in-law, who has been living in Memory Care for the last 5 years, recently passed away. I heard the news a week ago and today I pulled out a copy of his will and realized I was named the executrix. I called his sister, who has been acting as his POA ever since my sister (his wife) died in 2020. After asking how she and the family are doing, I told her I had read over his will and as the executrix, I would need to get a complete list of assets so I could begin the probate process with his will. My sister and her husband had identical wills. Both had charitable bequests and then left the remainder to their sisters, split 50/50.
She suggested that she could just handle everything since as his POA, she had been handling his affairs for the last several years. I told her I needed to fulfill my legal responsibility. Besides, my BIL left a significant portion of his assets to charity, after which any residual was to be split 50/50 between the two of us. She said she should get everything because she had been doing the work to visit him and manage his affairs the last four years, and did not seem inclined to cooperate with the idea of probating the will. Just WOW!
I will be reaching out to an attorney who handles contested estates on Monday. Another attorney I know volunteered to write her a letter, but I’m thinking of engaging a firm who could handle litigation over the estate if it comes to that. I am not sure of the funds involved once his charitable wishes are fulfilled and any creditors are satisfied, and I’m fairly confident it is not a huge amount, but it is just not right for her to disregard his wishes so blatantly.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? If so, any advice?
I was thinking the same thing. Of course I guess it calls into question if he was mentally competent to change the will when he did. What a mess.I wonder if she has thoughts of probating "her" new will before you do? Maybe she named herself the executor of his estate? (thinking bad things happening here...)