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The last two weddings I went to cost about 2k or less.
The last two weddings I went to cost about 2k or less.
We have had 3 nieces getting married in the past 18 months, and my daughter wedding is coming up. The costs are from $20K to $25K as my best guess (for 75 to 100 guests), and they are all nice. Much of the wedding cost is recovered from relative guests who give cash gifts. Everybody has a good time, and in fact would feel insulted if not invited.
As always, YMMV.
I'm not really in to weddings that much so suggested Justice of the Peace for my daughter's upcoming wedding. Surprising to me that the cost for this is about $15,000 so far. Oh well I tried. ��
Apparently these days the Justice of the Peace requires you to meet at a nice location, with food, and have about 100 witnesses.
Ok so I was married for almost 30 years and yep I had a big wedding. 300 people, most family. I paid for my dress, 3 grand. We had a DJ, live band, open bar, sit down dinner.
It was absolutely beautiful. I will not criticize some one for some thing I did myself.
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Yep, this is the home of frugalistas, and yet they are underwriting incredible wedding expenses.The fact that folks in this thread are suggesting $20-40K weddings are acceptable shows just how skewed this issue has become.
The last two weddings I went to cost about 2k or less.
The wife and I had maybe 50 people at our wedding, the reception was at a restaurant. Very modest.I was 36 she 33.
-Happily married 25 years this week. How many crazy over the top weddings did I go to? For many it as the start of a life of debt and over spending! My buddy paid for it then his daughter asked for help with the furniture...she was making more then her father.. 2 years later the son in law buys himself a brand new Harley! So wrong on so many levels...
Daughter is 20 - looking a couple years down the road (the Mrs. and I paid for college fully I consider that a big deal)
My thoughts: If you have a modest wedding that you fully fund (no debt) I'll give you $100k as a wedding gift. If you want me to pay our contribution is capped at $40k and that's all you get (son is 16 today...)
What it means ..
No coming out of the smoking floor
No 15 piece band
No $5000 dress
No other insanity...
Yes I know it is imposing my will... Am I crazy? Before you say anything harsh ...how long does it take to save $100k? How about $40k? Don't get hung up on the amounts. It is the concept I am talking about.
And yeah I saw father of the bride... Spenser Tracy wasn't it?
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That's pretty much the tradition with my extended family and many of our friends. Weddings and receptions are not "extravagant" but almost always include dinner, open bar, music and dancing, etc. Guests consider it a time for renewal of friendships and/or a chance to say hello to the out of town cousins you only see at weddings and funerals...... Most that accept invitations are generally generous gifters and understand what it's costing to have them there.
I can certainly understand where folks with smaller families or families that are less close would want to keep things smaller. If you're stretching to come up with a guest list without including folks that neither the bride, groom or their parents are really close to, why force the issue? Just keep the ceremony and celebration small, send out post-wedding announcements and insist on no gifts.
I don't think these kind of cultural decisions are a "one size fits all" thing and I'm a little surprised at some of the folks here who seem to feel everyone needs to think their way on this issue.
Apparently these days the Justice of the Peace requires you to meet at a nice location, with food, and have about 100 witnesses.
Yes I know it is imposing my will... Am I crazy? Before you say anything harsh ...how long does it take to save $100k? How about $40k? Don't get hung up on the amounts. It is the concept I am talking about.
And yeah I saw father of the bride... Spenser Tracy wasn't it?
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