At 60, I hopefully have at least 20 years before I even have to think about this as family history says we will be self sufficient at least until mid 80's
You have a spouse, and a "we," which changes the dynamic
some. But it's good to think of this before age 80. Too many people wait too long, not just in terms of health, but in terms of adaptability, transportation, and energy. It's unlikely that any of us will continue with the same levels of the above until age 80. Also, what really IS our family history? Few in my family (e.g. a grandmother of 94) accessed aged care facilities until basically their final illnesses, if then. But there weren't that many options. And they did have family living near them, often a female relative who was a homemaker and able to help with things. And the physical facts of life were simpler - you weren't completely stymied if your tech went bad, or online health access instructions were obscure (and they often are - I spent some minutes trying to scan a QR code I was instructed to scan upon arrival at my doctor's parking lot, finally gave up, went inside and was told, "Oh we aren't using that."
For example, you may be still in pretty good health at 80, but have issues with driving starting in your 70s and gradually worsening. Will both of you have the same levels of health? And what about facing, at age 80, completely beginning the process of sorting through housing options, interviewing places, driving to check them out, the physical labor of sorting through your things?
It does sound as though you will be in a better position than most people, though! But it's good to look at the experiences of 70- and 80-somethings now, to take advantage of their experiences.