Obviously you can be an old 65 or a young 80, but at some point CCRC will probably make sense.
And the one thing I learned from helping my own aging parents was you don’t want to be behind the curve on this issue.
DW and I are still young (relatively speaking mid sixties and in excellent health), but there will come a time.
So trying to learn from others what are the criteria you are considering as to when it’s time to seriously start to investigate CCRCs?
As an aside I recently joked with DW that we should take a cross-country road trip using top notch CCRCs as destinations.
She didn’t find my suggestion funny!
We're about a decade older than you folks. And we still feel a bit too active to move to a CCRC yet. But obviously that's a very individual thing as you've stated.
We just visited our favorite CCRC yesterday. That was maybe our 5th or 6th time over 2 - 3 years. We left with the same feeling we've had in the past that our social life and activities would continue to be mainly off campus if we moved in now or in the near future.
We're interested in a Type A contract for the LTCI aspect so waiting does include some risk. Were one of us become less than 100% independent, we wouldn't be accepted.
Our backup plan would be to go into a Type C contract place and just pay as we go. Our number one objective is that if one of us goes into full nursing care, the other shouldn't have to expose him-herself to long drives in Chicago winter weather, etc., as we just finished doing with DW's mom. And that our son wouldn't be burdened with picking a NH and handling details.
Secondarily, if we do manage to get into a Type A contract place, costs become relatively predictable so we could increase our transfer of assets to the family with the better knowledge of what future costs might be.
So........
1st choice...... Continue to live at home (and travel, camp, take fishing trips, pursue space eating hobbies, winter in Fla., etc.) until some age or health related issue tells us it's time to get into a Type A contract CCRC while we can.
2nd choice...... As above but an issue jumps into our lives which precludes a Type A contract and we go Type C. Costs would be much less predictable and possibly more but the advantage is when you go in, you already need care so you're sure you're ready to go!
3rd choice....... Stay at home until the poop hits the fan with health or age issues for one of us. Scramble and get that person into a NH. The other stays in the house and commutes to visit regularly. Our son gets involved and helps.
We can afford the entrance fee and monthly fees for a Type A CCRC and there are several nice ones around here. We can afford to pay the full ride for NH care at a Type C CCRC (but man they're pricey, $100k/yr and up for just the NH portion). So, we're covered either way. But it would be nice to get into a Type A (but not so early that we're elementary schoolers hanging around with the high schoolers.
We can afford to have one of us still living here at the house and the other in a NH. But the idea that I'm still here taking care of things and driving through weather and traffic for daily visits is not appealing. Or the other way around.
We want to be where the kids and grand kids can conveniently visit and that they be well informed and involved in some decisions. But we don't want them to have to hustle to figure out what to do or to shoulder any financial responsibility for it all.
It's really hard to come up with choices that solve the issues involved with getting old and possibly having lingering health issues without making some compromises. This is where we're at so far.