The lesson for me: I remember threads here where others would argue that you should really divide your assets by two if you're married. Now I understand. It's easy to retire on a couple of million if there's two of you sharing expenses. It's not quite as easy, or at least the same, for one on a million.
+1. Splitting assets in half and losing the ability to share expenses with a spouse really takes a bite. We were already retired when we divorced and it meant a significantly lower standard of living for each of us than we used to enjoy as a married couple. I decided to stay retired and make changes to my lifestyle to reflect my reduced ressources. She preferred to go back to work (consulting) than to cut back. For me, some luxuries have become a thing of the past. Exit business class traveling for example - but I am making changes to ensure that I won't have to fly long haul as frequently in the future (90% of my flying was to go visit family and I will be moving within driving distance of their place of residence). The divorce has been a life-altering event, financially, but not a devastating blow. I am still able to blow some dough, just not as freely as before. But I will say this: even with a much reduced net worth, I feel more secure now that the dough I have is mine and mine only.
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