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Old 10-14-2020, 09:10 AM   #41
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My personal observation has been that men, assuming they're not absolutely repulsive, only go without a partner because they don't really want one.
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Old 10-14-2020, 09:12 AM   #42
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A friend of mine lost his wife in his mid 70's. Within a year he was traveling about with his new girl friend. His kids were not happy. They thought he needed to mourn longer. He told me about that and then asked me, "I'm 76. Just how long do they expect me to wait?"
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My personal observation has been that men, assuming they're not absolutely repulsive, only go without a partner because they don't really want one.
Humm... I am not sure which category I would fit into.
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I dunno. Bruce Wayne seemed to have a pretty nice setup.
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I seriously doubt it's the first one. (You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?

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I seriously doubt it's the first one. (You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?
This is the only forum I hang out on. I have never tried on line dating, so maybe I do fit in the latter category.
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(You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?
I had to google that. And now I need brain bleach!
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Sorry! I tried not to be too explicit Those are the truly repulsive men I was referring to. All the rest of youse guys should be just fine

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I had to google that. And now I need brain bleach!
I didn't Google it. Kind of glad I didn't!
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I seriously doubt it's the first one. (You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?

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I didn't Google it. Kind of glad I didn't!
I did.

That's life in these modern times!
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I dunno. Bruce Wayne seemed to have a pretty nice setup.
Superheros hardly ever get the girl. And if they do it only lasts until she realized that her kids will probably be blown up by some terrorist, genius criminal mastermind or evil alien. It's just a matter of time. Then she's out of there.
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I did.

That's life in these modern times!
Me too.....the screed I glanced at reminded me of a story one of the guys I hung around with in Toronto in the late 1960s told.

Among other things he'd fought in the Congo as a merc, been a supply teacher in rough Toronto schools, and went to Oz with a buddy to get an advanced degree.

They figured the professor in one course knew zip, so they prepared a joint paper of absolute gibberish.

At one point one of them read a page to the other and said "What's that supposed to mean?" The other guy replied "I don't know, it's one of the pages you wrote".

They got an A or an A+.
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I don't even know what this means.
Again, naive.
My new woman friend's friend was worried about her getting hurt in our new relationship.
I later joked with her that I was the naive one who might not know what I'm getting into.
Kind of funny.
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I seriously doubt it's the first one. (You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?
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My personal observation has been that men, assuming they're not absolutely repulsive, only go without a partner because they don't really want one.

Yes, but the difficult part is finding the RIGHT partner. I could have been remarried within a year or so of my divorce, but it took about 5 years to find the woman that I knew was right for me.
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Yes, but the difficult part is finding the RIGHT partner. I could have been remarried within a year or so of my divorce, but it took about 5 years to find the woman that I knew was right for me.
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Getting dates is easy. Find the right partner is tough. Oh well, live and learn. I
In any case, most women don't seem to want to get married again. Or maybe I just don't trigger those Wedding Bell Blues hormones.



Gosh, that woman can sing!
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I'm very sorry for your loss, and happy you have found someone to share with.

I got emotional reading your post. Two of my best friends died in the past 2 years, and we have been trying to be supportive of both of their widows. Whether it's helping them with a chore at their house, texting them on holidays, or inviting them over for a gathering or dinner...we do what we can. I feel bad for them. I miss my friends, but they were their wives...and I'm sure they miss them even more since they spent every day with them.

I pray for your continued happiness...and I'm sure your lost wife is glad you are moving on at your own pace.
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My personal observation has been that men, assuming they're not absolutely repulsive, only go without a partner because they don't really want one.
I'm glad someone else observes this besides me. I wasn't sure if a bias was affecting my observation.
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I lost my wife of 50 plus years and my new wife lost her husband 0f 40 plus years. We’re into our 70’s and after long and successful marriages, have found a new level of happiness. Travel, adventure, golf & sailing make this second chance seem like a dream. I heartily recommend taking the chance of a new beginning if you have the heart.
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Advice from a friend of mine to a recent widower. "Don't fall for the first good casserole that comes through the door!
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So funny. I have actually heard the word "casseroling" used as a verb. Describing the old ladies converging on the widower with stuff he probably doesn't even like to eat. Me, I'd cook a guy a steak.

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