Midpack
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No one is suggesting they're all victims, some certainly are. I suspect the widest swath of people fall between "there but for the grace of G*d" and "blowing money on booze and the casino."We can scold these people, wag our fingers at them, , and feel ever-so-superior to them.
But still, as I begin to reflexively do these things, I start feeling very guilty about my judgmental behavior because there for the grace of G*d, go I.
Some of them have parents, kids, disabled, or extremely ill relative who are dependent on them just to survive. Some have mountains of debt due to divorce or failed businesses. Some poor souls are just unable to do even the simplest arithmetic and cannot budget because they are mathematically incapable of doing something like that. And I am sure there are many other unexpected and burdensome situations that could arise, that I haven't thought of.
I don't think very highly of anybody that just blows all their money on booze and the casino. But I am not sure I believe that all of these people fall into money wasting habits.
For those that do, I have but one response: Shame on you!
But I've personally known way too many people who made chronically bad choices - expensive cars, max mortgage homes, lavish vacations and every new toy that comes along. Many we're indignant when anyone suggested they weren't entitled to everything they had and more (I listened, I didn't suggest). That doesn't mean we feel "ever-so-superior". I never wagged my finger at or scolded any of them, not even a little bit.
I don't need to tell them "shame on you" either, that sounds a little superior...
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