Amethyst
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
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- Dec 21, 2008
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"I need to be able to put my head down on the pillow at night and sleep."
You didn't mean anything bad by this, but it came across to me, a total stranger, as making the question about you and your needs. A little breathless and dramatic, too, as if you were spending nights lying awake just worrying about whether your kids know how to raise kids.
I have had to learn from scratch about the "tone" I use, not just in emails, but long before emails. As an example: My family are very flippant, without meaning anything by it. It is just how we talk to each other - making a wry comment out of everything and chuckling. I probably got away with it in college because I was pretty, but at work I had to stop it right quick b/c I was p***ing people off. It really took a while before I figured out that it was me, not them.
You didn't mean anything bad by this, but it came across to me, a total stranger, as making the question about you and your needs. A little breathless and dramatic, too, as if you were spending nights lying awake just worrying about whether your kids know how to raise kids.
I have had to learn from scratch about the "tone" I use, not just in emails, but long before emails. As an example: My family are very flippant, without meaning anything by it. It is just how we talk to each other - making a wry comment out of everything and chuckling. I probably got away with it in college because I was pretty, but at work I had to stop it right quick b/c I was p***ing people off. It really took a while before I figured out that it was me, not them.