Widow

[GravitySucks]

What a funny word. Widow. So round. So symmetrical.

Widowed. So passive.

Married. Divorced. He took an action leading to his state of being.

Widowed. God ripped the bones out of his back, but here's the funny part... He still stands.

 

[Meadbh]

Single. Self sufficient and proud of it!

 

[FrankiesGirl]

You okay, GS?

Sounds like you're having a sad time today. I'm so sorry.

 

[GravitySucks]

Yeah. Woke up with these things in my head. Bad day, not a bad life.

 

[Bestwifeever]

Sorry.

 

[Dtail]

Monday will be here soon enough in the Retired world.

 

[GravitySucks]

Snow blowed the widow lady down the road out.
At least I'm doing better than her.
Felling a little better.

 

[joylesshusband]

Snow blowed the widow lady down the road out.
At least I'm doing better than her.
Felling a little better.

Nice haiku.

 

[GravitySucks]

Nice haiku.

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[marko]

GS, I found your original post to be pure poetry.

 

[athena53]

Fifteen months after DH's death, I still have a hard time with the "W" word. It conjures up images of a barrel-shaped Queen Victoria, dressed perpetually in black with a hair covering after her beloved Albert died. I'm about to go on a trip and deposit some of DH's ashes in a country where sati (or suttee), the practice of a widow immolating herself on her husband's funeral pyre, was practiced for centuries.

I've just decided that "widow" is only one of the things I am. I'm a retired actuary, a mother, a Grandma, a gym rat, a Church Lady... the list goes on.

GS, I hope you're felling better. I don't know about you, but this winter has been particularly hard to get through- just day after day of cold and grey. Spring will be here soon!

 

[Amethyst]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

 

[Gumby]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

I sincerely hope never to find out.

 

[athena53]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

My Grandpa sure got snapped up fast after Grandma died. It doesn't help that typically women live longer so widows outnumber widowers.

My Dad, OTOH, just recently assured me that he's met no potential replacements for my mother in his new retirement community.

 

[Nemo2]

The winter after my late wife died, since I still had the 5th wheel, I went to Lake Havasu, AZ; old boy there, 90, great shape, full head of thick white hair.....just buried his 3rd wife...said he hadn't known the last one too long, but it was as if they'd known each other all their lives........I told him that, having had to lose one, I don't think I could handle losing three.

You do what you have to do.

 

[Hermit]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

My Grandpa sure got snapped up fast after Grandma died. It doesn't help that typically women live longer so widows outnumber widowers.

My Dad, OTOH, just recently assured me that he's met no potential replacements for my mother in his new retirement community.

The winter after my late wife died, since I still had the 5th wheel, I went to Lake Havasu, AZ; old boy there, 90, great shape, full head of thick white hair.....just buried his 3rd wife...said he hadn't known the last one too long, but it was as if they'd known each other all their lives........I told him that, having had to lose one, I don't think I could handle losing three.

You do what you have to do.

I'm with athena'a dad and Nemo. It would be pretty hard to find someone to replace DW and I don't think it would be fair for someone to have to try.

 

[street]

When I first OP tread I wasn't sure what it all meant but I do now. I have thought about that if it ever happened.

 

[GravitySucks]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

Hasn't really worked for me.

 

[RAE]

Hasn't really worked for me.

Hang in there, man. You will find someone eventually. After my divorce, I was pretty depressed, and figured there was probably no one out there that would ever want to be my life partner again. But eventually I started looking, and after almost 5 years (and a whole lot of bad dates), I found someone who is not only absolutely amazing, she actually wants to be with me! That was almost 17 years ago now, and we are happier than ever. So, don't give up, and don't be too pessimistic. It may take a little time, but you will find her at some point.

 

[Moemg]

I'm with athena'a dad and Nemo. It would be pretty hard to find someone to replace DW and I don't think it would be fair for someone to have to try.

You will never find anybody to replace your late wife but you may find another nice relationship .

 

[Nemo2]

You will never find anybody to replace your late wife but you may find another nice relationship .

I never thought I'd find someone who could 'replace' my late wife....but then I met DW and am now in the best relationship I've ever had........don't look for 'replacements', look for a partner.

 

[omni550]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

Gosh, that reminds me. Back in the mid-1980s, I was at the funeral home for my BF's mother, who had just died of breast cancer in her mid-50s. I went to the ladies room and could hear 2 older women chatting/plotting about putting the moves on my BF's dad.

omni

 

[Hermit]

I never thought I'd find someone who could 'replace' my late wife....but then I met DW and am now in the best relationship I've ever had........don't look for 'replacements', look for a partner.

Finding a partner is not a driving factor in my life right now. I agree with GS - Not a bad life. Threads like this sure do bring out some deep introspection though.

If I ever get to the point where a partner becomes more front and center, maybe I would need to visit a barber and wear something other than flannel shirts and jeans. Being in the Hermit mode doesn't help in the "chick magnet" arena, even with the widower label.

 

[NW-Bound]

When one gets to the cranky geezerdom, it is difficult to find a match.

When a couple got married relatively young, they have had many decades to learn to tolerate each other's idiosyncrasies. After a loss, some companionship may be found, but finding someone to live with 24 hours a day is a lot tougher, I imagine. If you can find and tolerate that new person, that person may not tolerate you.

 

[PatrickA5]

"Widower" OTOH seems to be some sort of chick magnet. I could cite numerous examples personally known to me.

Within about 3 months of my MIL's death, my 82 year old FIL had women in line waiting on him. His biggest problem these days is trying to remember which one of his girlfriends he told he was going out with on that particular day. Right now, he has 3 steady girlfriends, but he says others are waiting. Quite the ladies man.