I couldn't agree more. But first, the legal issues... Surfer, you have a big problem, given the laws in your country. I did the same thing as you, although here in the USA I didn't have the potential legal problems you have. Even without the legal issue, it was all a huge mistake. At this age, we need to be smarter... financial means ARE important, and it's not shallow to consider that as a deal breaker. You're courting disaster by staying with this woman.
After divorce, I was in a 9 year relationship with a woman who had few assets, and no hope of retiring (although she was my age... late 40's at the time). She definitely was not a gold-digger, and was content with her life, and it was good. It didn't bother me for many years, but after I retired, I began to feel like my retirement dreams were limited by her financial situation and the fact she'd be working forever. We couldn't travel, if we did I paid for everything, and since I was home all day most chores fell to me. I finally realized that at this age, love isn't enough, and I broke it off. While I realize this was simply a part of "My Path" and I don't regret it, I sometimes feel like I wasted 9 years of my life. Oh well, live and learn.
I'm now in a committed relationship with a woman whose financial situation and age is very similar to mine, and I'm loving life, her, and my retirement. We travel, we dine out, we're renting houses for a month at a time in sunny climates, we're buying a house together, etc. Granted, it's hard to find women at our age who are financially secure, but they are out there. And it doesn't have to be exactly equal, but you want her to at least be on the same page in terms of retirement, paying bills, debt, etc. Don't settle... determine characteristics you need and then go looking for that. Be creative in how you evaluate a potential partner... don't just say "I need someone who's financially responsible", because many will attempt to be whatever you say. Be a little crafty in finding out the truth.
While it may cause a little short term pain, in the long term you'll be much better off in finding the right person for you. Best of luck!