livingalmostlarge
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Ok I have to ask here since in person is difficult.
Tomorrow I'm going to a concert at night with people and there are total 5 people going. Three of us are carpooling and the other two are carpooling. The other four are friends and I'm a friend of the person driving the 3 of us. I bought the ticket to the concert last week since the original fifth friend something came up and couldn't go to the concert. I was never in the original group and don't know any of the others name phone number etc except my friend.
The concert in is an hour drive so we are carpooling. The three of us decided my friend would drive. Her friend said they don't have a car for her to use and shares with her husband.
I said I want to drink and prefer to not drive. I have a rental car currently and would again prefer to not drive. And I didn't know anyone and would either drive solo or if it was feasible catch a ride. I also said I'd was perfectly content taking public transit solo and then a ride home after meeting up with them since they were initially going to dinner together and I didn't want to crash. But I was okay taking transit and then a ride home would be okay since space wouldnt be an issue with 5 people. But it turns out they were always going to split carpooling based on house location.
So now the husband of my friend doesn't want her to drive. He was trying to pressure me to drive but I said no. He doesn't think she should be driving at night back.
I feel I'm right since also I'm the outsider not driving people I don't know and going solo to be concert. I wanted to go but didn't know anyone else going and I didn't buy a ticket initially with the group so the carpool and dinner I was never involved in.
But now my friend is driving which I think is the right answer. My answer still is public transit down and then a ride back or Uber. If it matters the woman who sold me the ticket I didn't know and I was the first person to respond in their networks for. $300 ticket which might have been the reason why. But also why they all sent an email asking if anyone was interested in going and buying said ticket
What is the proper etiquette? Am I supposed to offer to drive since her husband doesn't want her to? I do not want to drive
Tomorrow I'm going to a concert at night with people and there are total 5 people going. Three of us are carpooling and the other two are carpooling. The other four are friends and I'm a friend of the person driving the 3 of us. I bought the ticket to the concert last week since the original fifth friend something came up and couldn't go to the concert. I was never in the original group and don't know any of the others name phone number etc except my friend.
The concert in is an hour drive so we are carpooling. The three of us decided my friend would drive. Her friend said they don't have a car for her to use and shares with her husband.
I said I want to drink and prefer to not drive. I have a rental car currently and would again prefer to not drive. And I didn't know anyone and would either drive solo or if it was feasible catch a ride. I also said I'd was perfectly content taking public transit solo and then a ride home after meeting up with them since they were initially going to dinner together and I didn't want to crash. But I was okay taking transit and then a ride home would be okay since space wouldnt be an issue with 5 people. But it turns out they were always going to split carpooling based on house location.
So now the husband of my friend doesn't want her to drive. He was trying to pressure me to drive but I said no. He doesn't think she should be driving at night back.
I feel I'm right since also I'm the outsider not driving people I don't know and going solo to be concert. I wanted to go but didn't know anyone else going and I didn't buy a ticket initially with the group so the carpool and dinner I was never involved in.
But now my friend is driving which I think is the right answer. My answer still is public transit down and then a ride back or Uber. If it matters the woman who sold me the ticket I didn't know and I was the first person to respond in their networks for. $300 ticket which might have been the reason why. But also why they all sent an email asking if anyone was interested in going and buying said ticket
What is the proper etiquette? Am I supposed to offer to drive since her husband doesn't want her to? I do not want to drive
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